Hey! I’m so glad to hear that you feel happy and free during your vacations and when you’re with your family and on the farm. It sounds like those moments bring you a lot of joy and a sense of peace.
### Why You Might Feel Happier During Vacations 1. Break from Routine: School can be stressful, and taking a break allows you to recharge and enjoy life without the pressure of studies. 2. Quality Time with Loved Ones: Being with your grandparents and family creates a supportive environment where you can relax and be yourself. 3. Connection to Nature: Spending time on the farm can be refreshing and grounding. Nature has a way of lifting our spirits and reducing stress. 4. Engaging in Fun Activities: When you’re playing and enjoying life, it’s easier to let go of worries and just be present in the moment.
### What You Can Do - Incorporate Joy into Your Routine: Try to find small moments of joy in your daily life, like spending time with friends, engaging in hobbies, or taking short breaks to relax. - Mindfulness Practices: Consider mindfulness or relaxation techniques to help you feel more present and reduce stress during school hours. - Plan Mini-Vacations: Even short breaks or fun activities on weekends can help you feel refreshed and happy.
It’s wonderful that you recognize what makes you happy! Keep nurturing those moments and finding ways to bring that joy into your everyday life. If you ever want to chat more about balancing school and happiness, I’m here for you! 😊
Thank you
Il semble que votre bonheur pendant les vacances et avec la famille est lié à une diminution du stress et à une augmentation des activités agréables et relaxantes. L’école impose souvent un emploi du temps rigide et des attentes académiques, ce qui peut entraîner un stress significatif, surtout si vous révisez pendant de longues heures chaque jour. Ce poids peut affecter votre santé mentale et votre bien-être général. L’absence de ces facteurs de stress pendant les vacances permet à votre cerveau et votre corps de se relâcher, et vous engagez davantage dans des activités que vous aimez vraiment, ce qui augmenterait votre sentiment de bonheur. Il serait bénéfique de trouver un moyen d’introduire certaines de ces activités relaxantes dans votre routine scolaire. Par exemple, essayez de faire des pauses régulières lors des révisions pour vous détendre, même si c’est juste pour quelques minutes. La pratique de techniques de relaxation comme la respiration profonde ou la méditation peut aussi aide à mieux gérer le stress quotidien. Un bon équilibre entre vos études et le temps de loisirs est important. Si vous continuez à vous sentir submergé par le stress scolaire, il pourrait être utile d’en parler à un conseiller pédagogique ou un professionnel de la santé mentale, qui peut vous offrir des stratégies supplémentaires pour mieux gérer ces sentiments. L’imporrtant est de créer un environnement qui favorise non seulement l’étude mais aussi votre bien-être personnel en général.
Feeling happier during holidays and with family compared to school time is very common, especially when there is stress, long study hours, or pressure related to school.
The main reason is usually reduced stress and more freedom. During holidays, you spend time with people you love, play, relax, and follow your own rhythm. At school, your schedule is strict (8–16h plus studying until late), responsibilities are higher, and your mind stays focused on performance. That difference naturally affects mood and happiness.
Another important factor is emotional comfort. Being with grandparents, family, or in a familiar place like a farm often creates a sense of safety, belonging, and enjoyment. School environments can sometimes feel demanding, competitive, or tiring, especially if anxiety is present.
What you’re describing does not mean something is wrong with you. It often means your current routine may be too intense or stressful. Studying from 8:00 to 23:00 is a very long day, and your brain may simply be exhausted. When rest and fun return during holidays, your mood improves.
It would be helpful to focus on balance: Try to include short breaks, enjoyable activities, physical movement, and enough sleep during school days. Also, instead of ignoring stress, talk to someone you trust—such as a parent, teacher, or counselor—so adjustments can be made if needed.
You should seek extra support if the unhappiness at school becomes constant, affects sleep or appetite, leads to frequent anxiety or panic, or makes you want to avoid school regularly.
In simple terms: you feel happier during holidays because there is less pressure, more freedom, and more connection with family—and that’s a very normal human response.
Ce que tu décris correspond très probablement à un stress scolaire avec anxiété liée à l’école, et non à un problème “grave” en soi. Le fait que tu te sentes heureux, libre et détendu pendant les vacances, avec ta famille ou à la ferme, montre que ton bien-être est bon quand la pression disparaît. En revanche, ton emploi du temps actuel (école 8h–16h puis révisions jusqu’à 23h) est très chargé et peut facilement provoquer fatigue mentale, stress et perte de plaisir, ce qui explique pourquoi tu te sens souvent mal pendant la période scolaire. Il est important de rééquilibrer ton quotidien en intégrant des pauses, du temps pour toi et des activités que tu aimes, même pendant les jours d’école. Parler à un parent, un enseignant ou un conseiller peut aussi t’aider à adapter ta charge de travail. Tu n’as pas un problème “incompréhensible” : ton corps et ton esprit réagissent simplement à une pression trop élevée, et avec quelques ajustements, tu peux retrouver un meilleur équilibre et te sentir plus comme pendant les vacances.
Thank you for sharing this honest and important feeling. Here’s why you feel happier during holidays & with family compared to school:
· No performance pressure – School demands constant studying (8h‑23h!), tests, and deadlines. Holidays remove that pressure, letting you just be.
· Autonomy & play – Free time to play, not revise. Your brain releases dopamine (happiness chemical) during play and choice, not during forced routines.
· Emotional safety of family – Grandparents, farm, family = unconditional acceptance. No fear of judgment, failure, or bullying. Your nervous system relaxes.
· School = chronic low‑grade stress – You said “often unhappy,” “anxiety often,” and “ignoring it” (which doesn’t work long‑term). That stress builds up daily.
· Lack of real friendships – “Acquaintances” ≠ support. Humans need connection to feel good. Holidays give you real connection with family.
· Very long study hours (15h/day) – That would exhaust anyone. Your brain and body are crying for rest.
What this means: You’re not broken. You’re reacting normally to an overly stressful school environment. Suggestion: Don’t just “ignore” stress. Try small breaks during study, 1 trusted adult at school, and reduce revision to 8‑10h max.
Dr Nikhil Chauhan
