Is my hymen broken after high bidet pressure? - #16638
Is it possible for hymen to tear from built in bidet pressure? I was trying to aim for my clitoris while masturbating but for a few seconds it aimed for the hole. It bled an hour later and then stopped (slight discomfort) I have never been with a partner nor had any penetrative act. I regularly masturbate with clitoral stimulation. I have bled a few times before after rubbing my clitoris aggressively. Am I not going to bleed when actual penetration happens? Is it possible that blood was just from damage/irritation? Can I tell if hymen is still intact by just looking at it?
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Hello dear,
A high-pressure bidet is very unlikely to tear the hymen because water cannot penetrate deeply enough to cause that.
The bleeding you had is much more likely from irritation or a small surface scratch, especially since you’ve bled before from rubbing the area.
Bleeding now does not predict whether you will bleed during future penetration-some people bleed, many don’t.
You cannot reliably tell if your hymen is intact just by looking; even doctors often can’t.
🛑A hymen does not prove or disprove virginity. Virginity is a personal concept, not something that can be measured by anatomy.
🛑👍Overall, what you experienced is normal and not harmful.
I trust this helps Feel free to talk Thank you
Thank you for your answer, that really calmed me down. Also, I feel the discomfort I felt was from the very cold water I used. It was 30 minute exposure to that area 3 times for 2 days in a row. Do you think it would cause the discomfort even a day later? What can I do about it?
Hello, Cold exposure for a prolonged period (30 minutes, multiple times) can irritate or slightly inflame the delicate skin around the vulva and vaginal opening.
Avoid further cold exposure and harsh water jets for a few days. Warm (not hot) showers can be soothing . Gently pat dry, do not rub the area. Loose, breathable cotton underwear will reduce friction and irritation. Avoid aggressive rubbing, sexual activity, or harsh soaps until it feels normal.
Hi N,
Strong water jet can cause minor cuts and bleeding at the hymen or vaginal opening, but complete hymen rupture from a bidet is unlikely.
Clitoral masturbation without inserting anything into the vagina does not usually tear the hymen; bleeding is more often from surface irritation.
You may still bleed or feel discomfort during first penetration even if you had a small prior injury, or you may not bleed at all.
You cannot reliably tell if your hymen is “intact” just by looking yourself; even doctors cannot use hymen appearance to prove virginity.
So, don’t panic and stay calm, you might not have injured you. For further assistance you can contact me.
Dr Nikhil Chauhan urologist
Hi, I understand this is worrying, but please relax as a bidet stream cannot break the hymen. Water pressure is not strong enough to tear it.
The small bleeding you had is much more likely due to minor irritation of the vulva or the fragile skin around the opening, especially since you’ve bled before from rubbing.
1. Hymen does NOT need penetration to change - The hymen is naturally stretchy, thin, and shaped differently in every woman. It can stretch with: exercise, tampon use, normal daily activities, masturbation or even spontaneously. So bleeding is not proof of hymen tearing.
2. You can’t reliably tell by looking- Even doctors sometimes can’t determine “intact vs broken” just by visual exam. So you definitely don’t need to check it.
3. When you have sex in the future- You may bleed, you may not bleed — both are normal. Bleeding depends on many factors: lubrication, relaxation, anatomy, and not only the hymen.
What to do now- Avoid rubbing or using strong water pressure for 3–4 days. Use a gentle unscented moisturizer (e.g., Vaseline/Aquaphor externally). If bleeding recurs or pain increases, you can get a gynecologist exam, but in most cases this heals on its own.
You’re completely safe and this episode won’t affect your future sexual life in any way.
Feel free to reach out again.
Regards, Dr. Nirav Jain MBBS, DNB D.Fam.Med
Hello dear See hymen can tear from application of minor finger pressure or application of sex toys. Rubbing usually donot tear it but application of trauma or injury besides sex can break it. So it is possible that hymen can break on excess internal pressure. Blood probably is coming due to penetration of finger or internal trauma However for actual confirmation Consult gynaecologist in person for better clarity Regards
Thank you for your reply. I cant go to a doc because I cant let anyone know due to religious reasons. Does it mean it wont bleed on my wedding night? It was only bidet pressure I didnt insert anything.
Hello dear Thanks for the kind response. See usually as per clinical history there will not be continuous bleeding. However I suggest you to rule out any chances of deeper trauma, Consult gynaecologist in person. Right now it is not an emergency but probably after 10-15 days you can take opinion of concerned physician ( gynaecologist) Hopefully iam clear with your query Regards
Many people do not bleed at all, even if their hymen has never been touched.
Reasons: Hymens are usually stretchy Some have wide natural openings Some only have minor stretching with no blood Some tear but do not bleed noticeably So: You may bleed, or you may not both are normal. Bleeding is not a reliable indicator of intactness or sexual activity.
Hello N By going through your history and evaluation of your health status I must say that Thanks for sharing your concerns—these questions are quite common and it’s good you’re seeking clarity. 1. Hymen and Bidet Pressure: Yes, it’s possible for strong water pressure from a bidet to cause minor injury or irritation to the vaginal opening, including the hymen, especially if the stream is direct and forceful. However, bleeding after such an event is more likely due to minor surface irritation or small tears in the delicate skin rather than a complete hymen tear. 2. Bleeding After Masturbation:Bleeding after aggressive clitoral stimulation is usually from irritation or tiny abrasions to the skin, not necessarily from the hymen. The hymen is a thin membrane and can be stretched or torn by various activities—not just penetration—including sports, tampon use, or even routine activities. 3. Future Penetration and Bleeding:If your hymen has already stretched or torn, you may not bleed during first-time penetration. Some people never bleed at all, and that’s perfectly normal. 4. Checking Hymen Intactness: It’s very difficult to tell if the hymen is intact just by looking, even for doctors. The hymen varies greatly in appearance and can be thin, thick, or have natural openings. Its condition doesn’t reliably indicate anything about sexual activity.
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It’s possible for the hymen to tear from external factors that cause pressure or friction, including high-pressure water from a bidet. However, the bleeding might also be due to irritation or minor abrasions on the delicate vaginal tissue from the water or previous clitoral stimulation. The hymen itself varies greatly among individuals, and its status doesn’t necessarily reflect one’s virginity or sexual history. Many people have a partially intact hymen due to non-sexual activities like exercise or even tampon use. In your case, since you’ve experienced bleeding following clitoral stimulation, it’s very likely the minor bleeding you noticed could be from irritation or mild trauma to the skin rather than the hymen itself. When it comes to actual penetration, it’s hard to predict whether you’ll bleed or not. Some people with intact hymens don’t bleed during their first sexual intercourse since hymens are flexible and can stretch rather than tear. Looking at the hymen by yourself, particularly without medical training, might not accurately determine its intactness or health. If you’re concerned about discomfort or bleeding, consider consulting a healthcare provider who can examine the area more accurately. They can help you understand whether there’s any issue that needs attention or if what you’re experiencing is within a normal range of variation. As for bidet use, if you’re using a high-pressure setting, it might be helpful to adjust it to a gentler mode to prevent unnecessary irritation or discomfort in sensitive areas.
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