Sex desire kese increase kare..

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Sex desire kese increase kare.. - #20258

Sanyam

Hamari shaadi ko 5 saal ho gae h or startingm 1saal to shi tha lekin jab se baby hua h uske baad se mere wife k feeling bilkul khatam ho gae h uska bilkul maan nhi karta or jab karte h to apna maan maar k karti h orsex k tym par ushe dard bhi hota h bhut kya ye koi problem h h to eska koi solutionbatae

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Dr. Bharat Joshi

I’m a periodontist and academician with a strong clinical and teaching background. Over the last 4 years and 8 months, I’ve been actively involved in dental education, guiding students at multiple levels including dental hygienist, BDS, and MDS programs. Currently, I serve as a Reader at MMCDSR in Ambala, Haryana—a role that allows me to merge my academic passion with hands-on experience. Clinically, I’ve been practicing dentistry for the past 12 years. From routine procedures like scaling and root planing to more advanced cases involving grafts, biopsies, and implant surgeries. Honestly, I still find joy in doing a simple RCT when it’s needed. It’s not just about the procedure but making sure the patient feels comfortable and safe. Academically, I have 26 research publications to my credit. I’m on the editorial boards of the Archives of Dental Research and Journal of Dental Research and Oral Health, and I’ve spent a lot of time reviewing manuscripts—from case reports to meta-analyses and even book reviews. I was honored to receive the “Best Editor” award by Innovative Publications, and Athena Publications recognized me as an “excellent reviewer,” which honestly came as a bit of a surprise! In 2025, I had the opportunity to present a guest lecture in Italy on traumatic oral lesions. Sharing my work and learning from peers globally has been incredibly fulfilling. Outside academics and clinics, I’ve also worked in the pharmaceutical sector as a Drug Safety Associate for about 3 years, focusing on pharmacovigilance. That role really sharpened my attention to detail and deepened my understanding of drug interactions and adverse effects. My goal is to keep learning, and give every patient and student my absolute best.

94 days ago

Hello ji
Aapki problem se lagta hai probably wife main hormonal changes ho rahein hain.
Usually is tarah ke symptoms menopause ke time aatey hai.
Aapko kuch test aur precautions likh raha hun.
Test gynaecologist ko dikhana aur doctor ko bataye koi dawai nahi leni
Serum tsh
Serum lh
Rbs
CBC
Serum progesterone
Below precautions follow kariye
Wife ke saath akeley main time bitaye
Sex slow karein aur forcibly nahin karna
Movies aur discussion main time lagayein
Hopefully improvement hogii
Regards

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Dr. Prasannajeet Singh Shekhawat

I am a 2023 batch passout and working as a general physician right now, based in Hanumangarh, Rajasthan. Still kinda new in the bigger picture maybe, but honestly—every single day in this line teaches you more than textbooks ever could. I’ve had the chance to work under some pretty respected doctors during and after my graduation, not just for the clinical part but also to see how they handle people, real people, in pain, in panic, and sometimes just confused about their own health. General medicine covers a lot, right? Like from the smallest complaints to those random, vague symptoms that no one really understands at first—those are kinda my zone now. I don’t really rush to label things, I try to spend time actually listening. Feels weird to say it but ya, I do take that part seriously. Some patients just need someone to hear the whole story instead of jumping to prescription pads after 30 seconds. Right now, my practice includes everything from managing common infections, blood pressure issues, sugar problems to more layered cases where symptoms overlap and you gotta just... piece things together. It's not glamorous all the time, but it's real. I’ve handled a bunch of seasonal disease waves too, like dengue surges and viral fevers that hit rural belts hard—Hanumangarh doesn’t get much spotlight but there’s plenty happening out here. Also, I do rely on basics—thorough history, solid clinical exam and yeah when needed, investigations. But not over-prescribing things just cz they’re there. One thing I picked up from the senior consultants I worked with—they used to say “don’t chase labs, chase the patient’s story”... stuck with me till now. Anyway, still learning every single day tbh. But I like that. Keeps me grounded and kind of obsessed with trying to get better.

93 days ago

Hello Sanyam
Aapki baat samajh aayi. Aapki wife ke feelings aur sexual health mein jo badlav aaye hain, wo kaafi samasyaon ka nishaan ho sakta hai. Yeh kuch samanya karan ho sakte hain:
1. Hormonal Changes: Pregnancy ke baad hormonal changes aate hain, jo libido (sexual desire) ko prabhavit kar sakte hain.
2. Physical Discomfort: Agar unhe sex ke dauran dard hota hai, to yeh kisi medical condition (jaise ki vaginal dryness ya pelvic issues) ka nishaan ho sakta hai.
3. Emotional Factors: Stress, anxiety, ya postpartum depression bhi unki feelings ko prabhavit kar sakte hain.
Kya Kiya Ja Sakta Hai
1. Open Communication: Unse khul kar baat karein. Unki feelings aur discomfort ke baare mein samajhne ki koshish karein.
2. Doctor se Salah: Unhe ek gynecologist ya healthcare professional se milne ke liye kehna zaroori hai. Wo unki symptoms ka assessment kar sakte hain aur sahi treatment ya therapy recommend kar sakte hain.
3. Intimacy ko Naya Rang Dena: Aap dono ke liye intimacy ko naya rang dene ke liye alag tarike apna sakte hain, jaise ki romantic dates ya quality time spend karna.
4. Relaxation Techniques: Stress ko kam karne ke liye yoga, meditation, ya counseling ka sahara le sakte hain.
Thank you

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Dr. Arsha K Isac

I am a general dentist with 3+ years of working in real-world setups, and lemme say—every single patient teaches me something diff. It’s not just teeth honestly, it’s people… and how they feel walking into the chair. I try really hard to not make it just a “procedure thing.” I explain stuff in plain words—no confusing dental jargon, just straight talk—coz I feel like when ppl *get* what's going on, they feel safer n that makes all the difference. Worked with all ages—like, little kids who need that gentle nudge about brushing, to older folks who come in with long histories and sometimes just need someone to really sit n listen. It’s weirdly rewarding to see someone walk out lighter, not just 'coz their toothache's gone but coz they felt seen during the whole thing. A lot of ppl come in scared or just unsure, and I honestly take that seriously. I keep the vibe calm. Try to read their mood, don’t rush. I always tell myself—every smile’s got a story, even the broken ones. My thing is: comfort first, then precision. I want the outcome to last, not just look good for a week. Not tryna claim perfection or magic solutions—just consistent, clear, hands-on care where patients feel heard. I think dentistry should *fit* the person, not push them into a box. That's kinda been my philosophy from day one. And yeah, maybe sometimes I overexplain or spend a bit too long checking alignment again but hey, if it means someone eats pain-free or finally smiles wide in pics again? Worth it. Every time.

94 days ago

Hello,
Baby ke baad wives me sex desire kam hona aur sex ke time dard hona bahut common hai.
Ye aksar hormonal changes, vaginal dryness, weakness, stress, delivery injuries ya postpartum depression ki wajah se hota hai.
Is problem ka treatment possible hai.
Kya karein:
Gynecologist ko dikhayein – infection, tear, dryness, hormone issues check honge
Lubricant gel / estrogen cream / treatment mil sakta hai
Dard hone par force na karein
Pyar se communication rakhein, stress kam karein, time aur comfort de
Counseling helpful ho sakti hai – lekin hamesha zaroori nahi hoti.
🛑Sabse pehle gynecologist ko dikhana chahiye, kyunki aksar problem medical hoti hai (hormonal change, dryness, pain).
Agar medical issues treat ho jayein aur phir bhi problem rahe to counseling best rahegi.
Thank you

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Dr. Shayeque Reza

I completed my medical degree in 2023, but honestly, my journey in healthcare started way before that. Since 2018, I’ve been actively involved in clinical practice—getting hands-on exposure across multiple departments like ENT, pediatrics, dermatology, ophthalmology, medicine, and emergency care. One of the most intense and defining phases of my training was working at a District Government Hospital for a full year during the COVID pandemic. It was chaotic, unpredictable, and exhausting—but it also grounded me in real-world medicine like no textbook ever could. Over time, I’ve worked in both OPD and IPD setups, handling everything from mild viral fevers to more stubborn, long-term conditions. These day-to-day experiences really built my base and taught me how to stay calm when things get hectic—and how to adjust fast when plans don’t go as expected. What I’ve learned most is that care isn't only about writing the right medicine. It’s about being fully there, listening properly, and making sure the person feels seen—not just treated. Alongside clinical work, I’ve also been exposed to preventive health, health education, and community outreach. These areas really matter to me because I believe real impact begins outside the hospital, with awareness and early intervention. My approach is always centered around clarity, empathy, and clinical logic—I like to make sure every patient knows exactly what’s going on and why we’re doing what we’re doing. I’ve always felt a pull towards general medicine and internal care, and honestly, I’m still learning every single day—each patient brings a new lesson. Medicine never really sits still, it keeps shifting, and I try to shift with it. Not just in terms of what I know, but also in how I listen and respond. For me, it’s always been about giving real care. Genuine, respectful, and the kind that actually helps a person heal—inside and out.

93 days ago

Baby ke baad bahut saari marriages me ye phase aata hai.
Sahi treatment + patience + support se desire wapas aati hai.
Agar aap chahen to aap bata sakte hain:
Baby ki age kitni hai?
Wife breastfeeding karti hain ya nahi?
Dard sirf sex ke time hota hai ya baad me bhi?
Main aapko aur specific solution bata dunga.

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Sanyam

Client

93 days ago

Lubricant h use karte h lekin usse interest h nhi aata feeling h n banti

Dr. Shayeque Reza

93 days ago

Gynecologist visit
Pelvic exam + ultrasound
Treat dryness/scar/muscle tightness first
If pain persists → THEN evaluate endometriosis

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Sanyam

Client

93 days ago

Baby 4 year ka h or breast feeding chod d h or dard intimacy k tym hota h

Dr. Shayeque Reza

93 days ago

Jab dobara try karein:
Water-based lubricant (KY jelly type)
Foreplay zyada
Slow start
Don’t use Oil, cream, ghee use na karein
Visit nearest physician or gynaecologist.

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Dr. Nikhil Chauhan

I am currently working as a urologist and kidney transplant surgeon at Graphic Era Medical College & Hospital, Dehradun. It's a role that keeps me on my toes, honestly. I handle a pretty wide range of urology cases—stones, prostate issues, urinary tract obstructions, infections, you name it. Some are straightforward, others way more complex than you expect at first glance. Every patient walks in with a different story and that’s what keeps the work real for me. Kidney transplant surgery, though, that’s a whole different zone. You’re not just working on anatomy—you’re dealing with timelines, matching, medications, family dynamics, emotional pressure... and yeah, very precise coordination. I’m part of a team that manages the entire transplant process—from evaluation to surgery to post-op care. Not gonna lie, it’s intense. But seeing someone who’s been on dialysis for years finally get a new shot at life—there’s nothing really like that feeling. In the OR, I’m detail-focused. Outside of it, I try to stay accessible—patients don’t always need answers right away, sometimes they just need to feel heard. I believe in walking them through what’s going on rather than just giving reports and instructions. Especially in transplant cases, trust matters. And clear, honest conversation helps build that. Urology itself is such a misunderstood field sometimes. People ignore symptoms for years because it feels “awkward” or they think it’s not serious until it becomes unmanageable. I’ve had patients who came in late just because they were embarassed to talk about urine flow or testicular pain. That’s why I also try to make the space judgment-free—like whatever it is, we’ll figure it out. At the end of the day, whether I’m scrubbing in for surgery or doing OPD rounds, I just want to make sure what I do *actually* helps. That the effort’s not wasted. And yeah, some days are frustrating—some procedures don’t go clean, some recoveries take longer than they should—but I keep showing up, cause the work’s worth doing. Always is.

93 days ago

Hi Sanyam,
This is a common situation after childbirth, and there are clear steps you can take.
1.  Core Issue: This is likely a combination of physical changes (pain during sex) and hormonal/emotional shifts after childbirth, not just a lack of desire.
2.  Priority #1 - Address the Pain: Pain during sex (dyspareunia) must be resolved first. This is the biggest barrier.
*   She must consult a Gynecologist. The pain could be due to dryness, healing from delivery, or other medical reasons.
3.  Key Actions for You:
*   Open, Kind Communication: Talk to her without pressure. Express concern for her comfort, not just the lack of sex.
*   Share Responsibility: Actively help with the baby and household chores. Mental exhaustion kills desire.
*   Rebuild Intimacy Slowly: Focus on non-sexual touch, cuddling, and dates. Desire needs to be rekindled, not demanded.
4.  Seek Professional Help Together:
*   A gynecologist is essential to rule out physical causes of pain.
*   Consider couples counseling to improve communication and navigate this phase together.
This is a phase that can be overcome with patience, partnership, and the right medical guidance.
Dr. Nikhil Chauhan, Urologist

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Dr. Nirav Jain

I am a qualified medical doctor with MBBS and DNB Diploma in Family Medicine from NBEMS, and my work has always been centered on treating patients in a complete, not just symptom based way. During my DNB training I rotated through almost every core department—Internal medicine, Pediatrics, Obstetrics & Gynecology, Surgery, Orthopedics, ENT, Dermatology, Psychiatry, Emergency medicine. That mix gave me the skill to manage acute illness, long term disease and preventive care together, something I find very important in family practice. In psychiatry I worked closely with patients who struggled with depression, anxiety, stress related problems, insomnia or substance use. I learned not just about medication but also about simple psychotherapy tools, psycho education and how to talk openly without judgement. I still use that exp in family medicine, specially when chronic disease patients also face mental health issues. My time in General surgery included assisting in minor and major procedures, managing wounds, abscess, sutures and emergencies. While I am not a surgeon, this gave me confidence to recognize surgical cases early, provide first line care and refer fast when needed, which makes a big difference in online or OPD settings. Now I work as a consultant in General medicine and Family practice, with focus on both in-person and online consultation. I treat conditions like fever, infections, gastrointestinal complaints, respiratory illness, and also manage diabetes, hypertension, thyroid disorders, and lifestyle related chronic diseases. I see women for PCOS, contraception counseling, menstrual health, and children for common pediatric issues. I also dedicate time to preventive health, lifestyle counseling and diet-sleep-exercise advice, since these small changes affect long term wellness more than we often realize. My key skills include holistic diagnosis, evidence based treatment, chronic disease management, mental health support, preventive medicine and telemedicine communiation. At the center of all this is one thing—patients should feel heard, safe, and guided with care that is both professional and personal.

93 days ago

Hello Sanyam, mai aapki takleef samajh sakta hoon. Aapki wife ki problem bahut common hai, aur isme ghabrane ki zarurat nahi hai. Baby ke baad kai mahilao me sex desire kam hona aur dard hona dono ho sakta hai.
Zabardasti sex bilkul na karein. Pehle dard ka solution zaroori hai, tabhi desire wapas aayega. Water-based lubricant (jaise KY Jelly) sex ke time use karein. Foreplay ka time badhayein, jaldi na karein.  Emotional support aur communication bahut zaroori hai.
Aapki wife ko ek baar Gynecologist ko dikhana chahiye: Vaginal dryness / infection check karne ke liye
Agar dard zyada ho to pelvic muscle relaxation exercises suggest hoti hain.
Regards,
Dr. Nirav Jain
MBBS, DNB D.Fam.Medicine

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Dr. Aarav Deshmukh

I am a general physician with 8 years of practice, mostly in urban clinics and semi-rural setups. I began working right after MBBS in a govt hospital in Kerala, and wow — first few months were chaotic, not gonna lie. Since then, I’ve seen 1000s of patients with all kinds of cases — fevers, uncontrolled diabetes, asthma, infections, you name it. I usually work with working-class patients, and that changed how I treat — people don’t always have time or money for fancy tests, so I focus on smart clinical diagnosis and practical treatment. Over time, I’ve developed an interest in preventive care — like helping young adults with early metabolic issues. I also counsel a lot on diet, sleep, and stress — more than half the problems start there anyway. I did a certification in evidence-based practice last year, and I keep learning stuff online. I’m not perfect (nobody is), but I care. I show up, I listen, I adjust when I’m wrong. Every patient needs something slightly different. That’s what keeps this work alive for me.

92 days ago

It’s not uncommon for sexual desire to decrease after childbirth, and you’re definitely not alone in facing this situation. First, it’s important to consider that several factors could contribute to the change in your wife’s libido and discomfort during intercourse. Hormonal changes post-pregnancy, especially a decline in estrogen, can affect vaginal lubrication and elasticity, leading to discomfort during sex. Moreover, psychological factors such as stress, fatigue from parenting responsibilities, changes in body image, or even postpartum depression can play a significant role. Physically, if she’s experiencing ongoing pain, it might be due to insufficient healing after childbirth or conditions like vaginismus.
Addressing this involves a multi-faceted approach. Encouraging open and honest communication is crucial—understand her feelings and concerns without pressure. Sometimes, just being heard can make a significant difference. If discomfort during intercourse is an issue, suggest seeing a gynecologist to rule out any physical causes and discuss solutions. They might recommend using a lubricant or considering pelvic floor therapy, which can often help. Furthermore, counseling or couples therapy can be beneficial in navigating any psychological hurdles impacting your wife’s libido. Ensure you both make time for relaxation and nurturing intimacy without pressure for it to be sexual, this can help in gradually rebuilding desire.
Creating a supportive and understanding environment is key. If emotional or physical health issues like postpartum depression are suspected, early intervention is crucial. Always prioritize empathy and patience, avoid rushing or pressuring—it’s all about comfort and mutual readiness. If after trying these strategies there’s no improvement, consulting a healthcare professional specialized in sexual health or relationship therapy could provide more tailored guidance. Adopting a proactive approach while being willing to adapt based on her comfort can encourage a positive change over time.

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