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Question #17142
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menstrual cup stem hurts - #17142

Tara

I am honestly getting pretty frustrated with this menstrual cup stem hurts situation. I thought I was doing something good for the environment and myself by switching to a menstrual cup, but now I'm dealing with this annoying pain! I’ve tried a few different brands, and the one I finally settled on seemed to fit well at first, but it feels like every time I wear it, the stem is digging into me. Like, why is that happening? I've tried trimming the stem, but then I feel like I'm losing grip on the thing when I try to remove it. And I’ve read that some people cut the stem off completely, but I’m so scared that will make it impossible to take out! I often have to wear it for a pretty long day at work, and just thinking about that discomfort is making me dread my period. Has anyone else dealt with the menstrual cup stem hurts problem? Are there specific techniques or tips you could share? I really want to love these cups because they're supposed to be so much better, but right now, it’s just a headache. Help!

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Menstrual cups can indeed be a great choice for many, both eco-friendly and often comfortable once you get the hang of it. However, the stem causing discomfort is a known issue for some users, especially if it’s poking or rubbing against sensitive vaginal tissues. Trimming the stem is a common first step, and you seem to have tried that, which normally helps relieve the pressure. If that’s not working effectively, consider a few more adjustments. First, experiment with different folding techniques for insertion; a different fold might allow the cup to sit higher or lower, affecting how the stem rests. The “punch down” and “origami” folds are more compact and might help it position better. Once inserted, you could try rotating the cup slightly, as sometimes a small adjustment can relieve pressure on specific areas. Additionally, personal anatomy varies greatly, and not every cup suits every person. Exploring different firmness levels or brand designs could make a big difference—some offer shorter or entirely stemless designs, which might be beneficial. You mentioned that removing it becomes difficult with a trimmed or absent stem. In these cases, mastering the pinch and bear down technique can simplify removal, as it encourages the cup’s base to come within reach, allowing you to break the seal safely. If these strategies still aren’t providing relief, it might be worthwhile seeing a gynecologist who could offer further personalized advice based on your specific anatomy. It’s also worth noting that any persistent pain or discomfort should be addressed to rule out underlying concerns, as your comfort and health should always come first.

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