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Question #19192
64 days ago
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How to De-sexualise my brain please - #19192

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Hello doctor, I am a young man and I have a problem that really bothers me. I get erections very easily and very often, even without sexual intention. For example, when I talk to a girl, when a girl sits close to me, when I receive a simple kiss, or even when I am in public places like a taxi with girls around. This causes me a lot of stress and embarrassment. I would like to know if this is normal at my age and what I can do to reduce it. Thank you.

Age: 18
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Dr. Arsha K Isac
I am a general dentist with 3+ years of working in real-world setups, and lemme say—every single patient teaches me something diff. It’s not just teeth honestly, it’s people… and how they feel walking into the chair. I try really hard to not make it just a “procedure thing.” I explain stuff in plain words—no confusing dental jargon, just straight talk—coz I feel like when ppl *get* what's going on, they feel safer n that makes all the difference. Worked with all ages—like, little kids who need that gentle nudge about brushing, to older folks who come in with long histories and sometimes just need someone to really sit n listen. It’s weirdly rewarding to see someone walk out lighter, not just 'coz their toothache's gone but coz they felt seen during the whole thing. A lot of ppl come in scared or just unsure, and I honestly take that seriously. I keep the vibe calm. Try to read their mood, don’t rush. I always tell myself—every smile’s got a story, even the broken ones. My thing is: comfort first, then precision. I want the outcome to last, not just look good for a week. Not tryna claim perfection or magic solutions—just consistent, clear, hands-on care where patients feel heard. I think dentistry should *fit* the person, not push them into a box. That's kinda been my philosophy from day one. And yeah, maybe sometimes I overexplain or spend a bit too long checking alignment again but hey, if it means someone eats pain-free or finally smiles wide in pics again? Worth it. Every time.
63 days ago
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Hello,

Frequent, unintentional erections at age 18 are normal and very common due to high hormones and a sensitive nervous system.

These erections are often reflex responses,triggered by anxiety,excitement,closeness,or social interaction not sexual intent.

The issue is over-reactivity and anxiety, not being “over-sexual.” Worrying about erections makes them more likely.

Helpful strategies include: Stop monitoring the erection and shift attention elsewhere Slow breathing (longer exhale than inhale) to calm the nervous system Reduce triggers like excessive porn, sexual fantasizing, poor sleep Regular exercise to lower adrenaline Mental reframing (“This is normal; it will pass”) Practical clothing/posture adjustments

This usually improves naturally with age as hormones stabilize and confidence grows.

Medical concern is only needed if erections are painful, last over 4 hours, or have other unusual features.

I trust this helps Feel free to talk Thank you

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Dr. Bharat Joshi
I’m a periodontist and academician with a strong clinical and teaching background. Over the last 4 years and 8 months, I’ve been actively involved in dental education, guiding students at multiple levels including dental hygienist, BDS, and MDS programs. Currently, I serve as a Reader at MMCDSR in Ambala, Haryana—a role that allows me to merge my academic passion with hands-on experience. Clinically, I’ve been practicing dentistry for the past 12 years. From routine procedures like scaling and root planing to more advanced cases involving grafts, biopsies, and implant surgeries. Honestly, I still find joy in doing a simple RCT when it’s needed. It’s not just about the procedure but making sure the patient feels comfortable and safe. Academically, I have 26 research publications to my credit. I’m on the editorial boards of the Archives of Dental Research and Journal of Dental Research and Oral Health, and I’ve spent a lot of time reviewing manuscripts—from case reports to meta-analyses and even book reviews. I was honored to receive the “Best Editor” award by Innovative Publications, and Athena Publications recognized me as an “excellent reviewer,” which honestly came as a bit of a surprise! In 2025, I had the opportunity to present a guest lecture in Italy on traumatic oral lesions. Sharing my work and learning from peers globally has been incredibly fulfilling. Outside academics and clinics, I’ve also worked in the pharmaceutical sector as a Drug Safety Associate for about 3 years, focusing on pharmacovigilance. That role really sharpened my attention to detail and deepened my understanding of drug interactions and adverse effects. My goal is to keep learning, and give every patient and student my absolute best.
62 days ago
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Hello dear See these feelings are due to testosterone level which are at peak during this level. This is normal hormonal alterations Please donot think this bring stressful. However for better distraction from it Please follow below precautions Exercises regularly for atleast half an hour daily Do meditation daily Engage in hobbies Indulge in social media Avoid overthinking and junk food intake Avoid porn movies Hopefully in a month improvement will occur Regards

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Frequent, easily-triggered erections can indeed be a common phenomenon for young men, and it’s often linked to hormonal changes and high levels of testosterone during your age. It’s important, first, to normalize this within yourself as it’s a part of physiological responses many encounter during these years. However, if this is distressing or disruptive to daily life, there are several strategies you may consider to help manage or minimize them. Lifestyle modifications like regular physical exercise can be beneficial as they often help in reducing stress and balancing hormone levels. Relaxation techniques such as deep breathing, mindfulness, or meditation might also aid in managing anxiety that might exacerbate the issue. Cognitive distraction techniques can be useful too; try switching your thoughts towards something non-sexual or engaging your mind in another task to redirect your focus. Wearing looser clothing could additionally help since tight clothing can emphasize and discomfort. You might consider speaking with a healthcare provider to rule out any underlying medical conditions if you continue to feel overly concerned; they can offer reassurance or other interventions if necessary. Remember, knowledge into sexual health and understanding your bodily responses is empowering, and a healthcare professional can provide tailored advice based on your specific context or any associated behavioral concerns. Due to the nature of slight variability in normal sexual development, working closely with a healthcare provider is the best route to seeking clarity and support.

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