Erectile dysfunction due to stress and psychological barriers - #19945
About a month and a half ago, my girlfriend and I were about to have sex when I experienced erectile dysfunction at the start of intercourse. However, I have a good erection if penetration isn't the goal. My girlfriend's reaction was very negative, which exacerbated the problem, and it has worsened over time. I think the first time this happened was just due to mild fatigue, but we've tried it several times since. Every time we try, we fail to achieve penetration, and the erection weakens very quickly. This is causing me psychological distress. Please help me as soon as possible.
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This presentation is most consistent with psychogenic (performance-related) erectile dysfunction triggered by an initial episode of fatigue and reinforced by anxiety and a negative partner reaction. The ability to achieve and maintain erections when penetration is not the goal strongly indicates that the physical mechanisms of erection are normal, especially given the patient’s young age of 18. Repeated failed attempts have likely created a cycle of fear and heightened performance pressure, which interferes with erections during intercourse attempts. This condition is common, reversible, and does not indicate permanent sexual dysfunction. With reduced pressure, supportive communication, and if needed short-term professional guidance, full recovery is expected
Is there a solution to avoid this problem permanently? Our sexual relationship was very good at the beginning, and I never suffered from erectile dysfunction, but since that incident, the problem has continued until today. Thank you
Sleep well
Avoid pornography temporarily (can worsen performance anxiety)
Light exercise
No alcohol before intimacy
Don’t take medicine at this age. Try to work with your partner. For better assistance take In person consultation.
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