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Question #20079
1 day ago
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How to overcome this weekness about body - #20079

Shan

Doctor, I am experiencing a problem that is causing me a lot of mental stress and physical weakness. Whenever I see a girl on my phone, hear a girl’s voice, receive a message from a girl, or even think about a girl, my mind immediately starts blaming me and asking why I am doing this. I feel as if I have done something wrong, even though my intentions are completely positive and I do not want to do anything bad. During these moments, my body feels weak, anxious, and uncomfortable. Over time, I have also lost around 10 kg of weight. The strange thing is that when I actually talk to girls normally, nothing happens at that time. However, later when I think about the interaction, these feelings return again. This issue is affecting my health, confidence, and daily life. I would like to know what could be causing this and how I can manage or treat it.

Age: 18
Weekness and feel lazy
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Dr. Arsha K Isac
I am a general dentist with 3+ years of working in real-world setups, and lemme say—every single patient teaches me something diff. It’s not just teeth honestly, it’s people… and how they feel walking into the chair. I try really hard to not make it just a “procedure thing.” I explain stuff in plain words—no confusing dental jargon, just straight talk—coz I feel like when ppl *get* what's going on, they feel safer n that makes all the difference. Worked with all ages—like, little kids who need that gentle nudge about brushing, to older folks who come in with long histories and sometimes just need someone to really sit n listen. It’s weirdly rewarding to see someone walk out lighter, not just 'coz their toothache's gone but coz they felt seen during the whole thing. A lot of ppl come in scared or just unsure, and I honestly take that seriously. I keep the vibe calm. Try to read their mood, don’t rush. I always tell myself—every smile’s got a story, even the broken ones. My thing is: comfort first, then precision. I want the outcome to last, not just look good for a week. Not tryna claim perfection or magic solutions—just consistent, clear, hands-on care where patients feel heard. I think dentistry should *fit* the person, not push them into a box. That's kinda been my philosophy from day one. And yeah, maybe sometimes I overexplain or spend a bit too long checking alignment again but hey, if it means someone eats pain-free or finally smiles wide in pics again? Worth it. Every time.
1 day ago
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Hello,

You are not bad, not abnormal, not weak. You’re dealing with anxiety + guilt conditioning, and it is very treatable with the right help.

Body reactions (weakness, discomfort) are stress responses; 10 kg weight loss means anxiety may be affecting your health.

Likely causes: overthinking, self-criticism, strict beliefs about interaction with girls, or mild OCD-type guilt thoughts.

🛑See a psychiatrist/psychologist for evaluation (CBT therapy + possible short-term medication helps a lot).

Practice slow breathing during anxiety episodes. Maintain sleep, food, and exercise routine.

Don’t isolate yourself; normal interaction helps.

You’re not abnormal or weak—this is treatable anxiety, and you can recover.

I trust this helps Thank you

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Dr. Bharat Joshi
I’m a periodontist and academician with a strong clinical and teaching background. Over the last 4 years and 8 months, I’ve been actively involved in dental education, guiding students at multiple levels including dental hygienist, BDS, and MDS programs. Currently, I serve as a Reader at MMCDSR in Ambala, Haryana—a role that allows me to merge my academic passion with hands-on experience. Clinically, I’ve been practicing dentistry for the past 12 years. From routine procedures like scaling and root planing to more advanced cases involving grafts, biopsies, and implant surgeries. Honestly, I still find joy in doing a simple RCT when it’s needed. It’s not just about the procedure but making sure the patient feels comfortable and safe. Academically, I have 26 research publications to my credit. I’m on the editorial boards of the Archives of Dental Research and Journal of Dental Research and Oral Health, and I’ve spent a lot of time reviewing manuscripts—from case reports to meta-analyses and even book reviews. I was honored to receive the “Best Editor” award by Innovative Publications, and Athena Publications recognized me as an “excellent reviewer,” which honestly came as a bit of a surprise! In 2025, I had the opportunity to present a guest lecture in Italy on traumatic oral lesions. Sharing my work and learning from peers globally has been incredibly fulfilling. Outside academics and clinics, I’ve also worked in the pharmaceutical sector as a Drug Safety Associate for about 3 years, focusing on pharmacovigilance. That role really sharpened my attention to detail and deepened my understanding of drug interactions and adverse effects. My goal is to keep learning, and give every patient and student my absolute best.
1 day ago
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Hello dear See you are advancing towards adolescence so due to hormonal alterations these feelings do affect mental thinking Iam suggesting some precautions Please follow them for improvement Do meditation Do physical exercise atleast half an hour daily Engage in hobbies Indulge in social media Avoid porn movies Avoid junk food In case of no improvement consult psychiatrist in person for better clarity Regards

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Dr. Shayeque Reza
I completed my medical degree in 2023, but honestly, my journey in healthcare started way before that. Since 2018, I’ve been actively involved in clinical practice—getting hands-on exposure across multiple departments like ENT, pediatrics, dermatology, ophthalmology, medicine, and emergency care. One of the most intense and defining phases of my training was working at a District Government Hospital for a full year during the COVID pandemic. It was chaotic, unpredictable, and exhausting—but it also grounded me in real-world medicine like no textbook ever could. Over time, I’ve worked in both OPD and IPD setups, handling everything from mild viral fevers to more stubborn, long-term conditions. These day-to-day experiences really built my base and taught me how to stay calm when things get hectic—and how to adjust fast when plans don’t go as expected. What I’ve learned most is that care isn't only about writing the right medicine. It’s about being fully there, listening properly, and making sure the person feels seen—not just treated. Alongside clinical work, I’ve also been exposed to preventive health, health education, and community outreach. These areas really matter to me because I believe real impact begins outside the hospital, with awareness and early intervention. My approach is always centered around clarity, empathy, and clinical logic—I like to make sure every patient knows exactly what’s going on and why we’re doing what we’re doing. I’ve always felt a pull towards general medicine and internal care, and honestly, I’m still learning every single day—each patient brings a new lesson. Medicine never really sits still, it keeps shifting, and I try to shift with it. Not just in terms of what I know, but also in how I listen and respond. For me, it’s always been about giving real care. Genuine, respectful, and the kind that actually helps a person heal—inside and out.
19 hours ago
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Your problem is anxiety with intrusive guilt thoughts

You have done nothing wrong

Your body weakness is due to chronic stress

This condition is treatable

With proper help, you will regain confidence, health, and peace

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Dr. Nirav Jain
I am a qualified medical doctor with MBBS and DNB Diploma in Family Medicine from NBEMS, and my work has always been centered on treating patients in a complete, not just symptom based way. During my DNB training I rotated through almost every core department—Internal medicine, Pediatrics, Obstetrics & Gynecology, Surgery, Orthopedics, ENT, Dermatology, Psychiatry, Emergency medicine. That mix gave me the skill to manage acute illness, long term disease and preventive care together, something I find very important in family practice. In psychiatry I worked closely with patients who struggled with depression, anxiety, stress related problems, insomnia or substance use. I learned not just about medication but also about simple psychotherapy tools, psycho education and how to talk openly without judgement. I still use that exp in family medicine, specially when chronic disease patients also face mental health issues. My time in General surgery included assisting in minor and major procedures, managing wounds, abscess, sutures and emergencies. While I am not a surgeon, this gave me confidence to recognize surgical cases early, provide first line care and refer fast when needed, which makes a big difference in online or OPD settings. Now I work as a consultant in General medicine and Family practice, with focus on both in-person and online consultation. I treat conditions like fever, infections, gastrointestinal complaints, respiratory illness, and also manage diabetes, hypertension, thyroid disorders, and lifestyle related chronic diseases. I see women for PCOS, contraception counseling, menstrual health, and children for common pediatric issues. I also dedicate time to preventive health, lifestyle counseling and diet-sleep-exercise advice, since these small changes affect long term wellness more than we often realize. My key skills include holistic diagnosis, evidence based treatment, chronic disease management, mental health support, preventive medicine and telemedicine communiation. At the center of all this is one thing—patients should feel heard, safe, and guided with care that is both professional and personal.
16 hours ago
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Hello Shan, thank you for sharing your concern. This is not a physical weakness and it does not mean anything is wrong with your character. What you’re describing fits very closely with an anxiety-based condition, commonly seen at your age. Seeing or thinking about the opposite gender is normal. Having thoughts does not mean intention. Anxiety lies to you and creates false guilt. You are not weak, immoral, or abnormal. Here is my advise-

1. Stop fighting the thoughts. Don’t argue with them. Say internally: “This is anxiety, not reality.” Let the thought pass without reacting.

2. Limit mental replay. Do NOT re-analyze conversations. Avoid asking “Was it wrong?”. This feeds anxiety.

3. Daily grounding habits. 30–40 minutes physical activity (walking, gym, yoga). Fixed sleep time. Reduce phone scrolling (especially reels).

4. Nutrition & recovery. Eat regularly even if appetite is low. Protein + complex carbs. Avoid excessive caffeine.

5. You SHOULD consult a psychiatrist This is important and not a failure. A psychiatrist can talk to you and help you with counselling. Feel free to reach out to a psychiatrist, they talk judgement free and understand your mind.

6. Seek help urgently if - Continued weight loss, Panic attacks, Sleep disturbance, Thoughts of self-harm.

Feel free to reach out again.

Regards, Dr. Nirav Jain MBBS, DNB D.Fam.Medicine

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Dr. Prasannajeet Singh Shekhawat
I am a 2023 batch passout and working as a general physician right now, based in Hanumangarh, Rajasthan. Still kinda new in the bigger picture maybe, but honestly—every single day in this line teaches you more than textbooks ever could. I’ve had the chance to work under some pretty respected doctors during and after my graduation, not just for the clinical part but also to see how they handle people, real people, in pain, in panic, and sometimes just confused about their own health. General medicine covers a lot, right? Like from the smallest complaints to those random, vague symptoms that no one really understands at first—those are kinda my zone now. I don’t really rush to label things, I try to spend time actually listening. Feels weird to say it but ya, I do take that part seriously. Some patients just need someone to hear the whole story instead of jumping to prescription pads after 30 seconds. Right now, my practice includes everything from managing common infections, blood pressure issues, sugar problems to more layered cases where symptoms overlap and you gotta just... piece things together. It's not glamorous all the time, but it's real. I’ve handled a bunch of seasonal disease waves too, like dengue surges and viral fevers that hit rural belts hard—Hanumangarh doesn’t get much spotlight but there’s plenty happening out here. Also, I do rely on basics—thorough history, solid clinical exam and yeah when needed, investigations. But not over-prescribing things just cz they’re there. One thing I picked up from the senior consultants I worked with—they used to say “don’t chase labs, chase the patient’s story”... stuck with me till now. Anyway, still learning every single day tbh. But I like that. Keeps me grounded and kind of obsessed with trying to get better.
15 hours ago
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Hello Shan It sounds like you’re experiencing significant anxiety and stress related to your interactions and thoughts about girls. This can be quite challenging and may stem from various factors, including: - Social Anxiety: Feeling anxious about how you are perceived by others, especially in social situations. - Negative Self-Talk: The mind can sometimes create a cycle of self-blame and negative thoughts, which can lead to feelings of guilt or discomfort. - Past Experiences: If you’ve had negative experiences or feelings related to relationships, they can resurface in new situations.

Managing and Treating This Issue 1. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT): This is a common and effective approach for anxiety. It helps you identify and challenge negative thought patterns and replace them with more positive ones. 2. Mindfulness and Relaxation Techniques: Practices like meditation, deep breathing, or yoga can help reduce anxiety and improve your overall mental well-being. 3. Journaling: Writing down your thoughts and feelings can help you process them and identify triggers. 4. Talk to a Professional: A therapist or counselor can provide support and strategies tailored to your specific situation. 5. Physical Activity: Regular exercise can help reduce anxiety and improve mood. 6. Healthy Lifestyle Choices: Ensure you’re eating well, getting enough sleep, and staying hydrated, as these can all impact your mental health.

It’s important to address these feelings, especially since they are affecting your health and daily life. If you feel comfortable, consider reaching out to a mental health professional for support. They can help you work through these feelings and develop coping strategies.

Thank you

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