"Penis Size Concern and Early Discharge Issue" - #13594
"My age is 28, height 5.9, and weight 97 kg. I have a concern about whether my penis size is normal for my body type, both in relaxed and erect condition. During intercourse, I get an erection but usually ejaculate within 1-2 minutes after penetration. This makes me worried about premature ejaculation and sexual satisfaction. Kindly check my issue and guide about penis size norms, performance, and effective solutions for controlling early discharge.
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Hello dear See early ejaculation is not a sign of weak penis . But for proper improvement in prevention of erectile dysfunction you can go for following precautions and medication Do kegel exercises for atleast half an hour daily Take zincovit multivitamin therapy onca a day for 1 month Take shilajit onca a day for 1 month Avoid junk food Avoid smoking/ alcohol consumption Have adequate fruit and vegetables Lastly do meditation for mental health issues In case of no improvement in 1 month consult gynaecologist or sexologist in person for better clarity Regards
Hello Sam Thanks for sharing those details — it’s very common for men to have the same concerns, and the good news is that both your worries (penis size and early ejaculation) are treatable and often improve with the right approach…
1. Understanding Penis Size Norm - Penis size does not correlate with body height, weight, or overall size. So even if someone is heavier or taller, it doesn’t imply their penis should be proportionally larger or smaller. Most men who worry about being “small” are actually within the normal range.
Also, in sexual satisfaction-technique, emotional connection, and duration matter far more than size.
2. About Premature Ejaculation (PE)
From your description — ejaculating within 1–2 minutes after penetration — it does fit the typical definition of PE, especially if it happens consistently and causes distress. This is a very common issue (affecting 20–30% of men at some point).
Common causes include: Psychological: performance anxiety, stress, guilt, relationship tension Physical: hypersensitive glans, inflammation, thyroid imbalance, prostatitis Lifestyle: smoking, alcohol, obesity, low fitness, poor sleep
3. Effective Solutions and Control Strategies
A. Behavioral Techniques
1. Start–Stop Method: During stimulation, stop just before climax, wait 30 seconds, then start again. Repeat 3–4 times before finally allowing ejaculation.
2. Squeeze Technique: When you feel close, gently squeeze just below the glans to reduce arousal, then continue after a pause.
3. Pelvic Floor (Kegel) Exercises: Strengthening the muscles that control urination helps you hold back ejaculation.
Tighten the muscles as if you’re stopping urine midstream.
Hold for 5 seconds, relax for 5 seconds.
Repeat 10–15 times, 2–3 times a day.
4. Condoms: They reduce sensitivity and can increase duration. Counseling or sex therapy is very effective if anxiety or pressure is the trigger.
C. Lifestyle & General Health
* Aim for a healthy weight(your BMI ≈ 31.6, which is in the obese range). → Even a 5–10% reduction can improve testosterone, stamina, and confidence. * Regular exercise improves circulation, hormone balance, and endurance. * Cut smoking/alcohol, and get 7–8 hours of sleep. * Manage stress through meditation, yoga, or relaxation techniques.
4. When to See a Doctor
See a urologist or sexual health specialist if:
* Ejaculation happens before or within 1 minute of penetration consistently. * There’s loss of erection too quickly or no control at all. * You have other symptoms (pain, burning, hormonal changes, etc .
Thank you
Penis size varies widely among individuals, and there isn’t a specific “normal” size tied to body type. Generally, the average erect penis size is around 5.1 to 5.5 inches, though it can range wider due to many factors. Regarding your concern about premature ejaculation (PE), this condition is common and usually refers to ejaculating sooner than desired either before or shortly after penetration, in your case, 1-2 minutes. Several approaches can help manage this issue. First, behavioral techniques can be effective – such as the “stop-start” method or squeezing technique. These involve learning to recognize the sensation of imminent ejaculation, then pausing or squeezing the penis to reduce arousal and prolong intercourse. Kegel exercises, which strengthen the pelvic floor muscles, may also help control ejaculation timing. In some cases, topical anesthetics can be applied to reduce sensation temporarily, or medications like selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) may be prescribed off-label to delay ejaculation. It’s advisable to consult with a healthcare professional to explore these options and determine what works best for you, considering factors such as lifestyle, preferences, and any potential side effects. Remember, open communication with your partner about concerns can also positively impact sexual satisfaction and experience. If you’re also concerned about overall sexual performance, maintaining a healthy lifestyle with regular exercise, balanced diet, and managing stress can support sexual function. If performance anxiety is a factor, techniques like mindfulness or cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) might be beneficial. Always ensure that any treatment plan or change involves consultation with a healthcare provider to prioritize your safety and health outcomes.
Hello Sam, please know that your concern is very common and treatable. Here is my advise for you -
1. Penis Size Facts- The average penis size in Indian men: Relaxed: 7–10 cm (2.8–4 in) Erect: 12–16 cm (4.7–6.3 in) There’s no medical concern unless it’s below 7 cm when erect (which is rare). Size does not correlate with satisfaction but technique, communication, and stamina matter more.
2. Lifestyle - Regular exercise & weight reduction (your BMI ≈ 32 → aim <25). Avoid smoking/alcohol. Get 7–8 hours of sleep.
3. Techniques to delay Ejaculation - Start-stop technique and squeeze technique during stimulaion. Start stop technique is basically you stopping and pulling out whenever you feel like you are going to ejaculate and focus on other methods to pleasure your partner. Squeeze technique is whenever you feel that you are going to ejaculate, pull yourself out and squeeze the base of the shaft your penis. Use condoms to reduce sensitivity. Practice Kegel exercises (pelvic floor strengthening).
4. You can use this prescription for 15 days and review after 15 days with it’s effectiveness - - Cap. Fluoxetine 10mg once daily × 15 days - Tab. Multivitamin once daily × 1 month - Softgel Vit-D3 60k once a week × 1 month.
5. Also consider visiting a Urologist or a Psychiatrist for detailed evaluation of your concern.
Feel free to reach out again.
Regards, Dr. Nirav Jain MBBS, DNB D.Fam.Med
Hello
The average length is about 7–10 cm when relaxed and 12–16 cm when erect, and height or body size don’t greatly affect this. What you’re mainly experiencing is premature ejaculation , which is a common and treatable condition. It can result from stress, performance anxiety, infrequent sex, or sensitivity, and sometimes from physical factors like hormonal imbalance or mild prostate issues.
The best approach combines healthy lifestyle changes (exercise, weight loss, enough sleep), behavioral control techniques (start-stop or squeeze methods, using condoms), and, if needed, medical options such as short-acting SSRIs, desensitizing creams, or low-dose tadalafil under a doctor’s supervision. With regular practice and proper evaluation, you can expect normal sexual performance and satisfaction, since neither your size nor your timing problem is permanent or abnormal
I hope your concern is resolved Thank you
Penis size varies widely among men, and there’s no fixed “normal” based on body type—most measure around 9–10 cm (3.5–4 inches) when flaccid and 12–16 cm (5–6 inches) when erect, which is entirely normal. Ejaculating within 1–2 minutes is common and can be improved through techniques like the start-stop method, pelvic floor (Kegel) exercises, and stress management. To assess underlying causes and get effective treatment options (including behavioral therapy or medications if needed), consult an andrologist or urologist specializing in sexual health.
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