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Sexual Health & Wellness
Question #29036
101 days ago
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Struggling with Sexual Performance After Marriage

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Thik se kheda nhi hota shadi abhi huvi he pele sab thik ab nhi he kya karu sir me normal porn dek leta phir bhi kheda nhi hota sex karta luse reheta he

How long have you been experiencing these issues?:

- 1-3 months

Have you noticed any specific triggers for your performance issues?:

- No specific triggers

How is your overall health and lifestyle?:

- Moderately healthy, some exercise
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Hi 👋

Aapka issue samajh aa raha hai — new marriage me aisa hona kaafi common hai. Don’t panic.

Possible reasons:

* Performance anxiety (nervousness, pressure to perform) * Overthinking during sex * Porn use se real stimulation kam lagna * Stress / fatigue * Early psychological erectile dysfunction

Kya karein (simple steps):

* Porn completely band karein đŸš« * Foreplay pe focus karein, jaldi penetration ki tension na lein * Partner se open baat karein (no pressure mindset) * Proper sleep + regular exercise đŸƒâ€â™‚ïž * Alcohol/smoking avoid karein * 2–3 weeks “no pressure sex” try karein (sirf intimacy build karein)

Kab doctor dikhaayein:

* Agar 1–2 mahine me improvement na ho * Morning erection bhi weak ho * Diabetes / BP / thyroid ka doubt ho

👉 Yeh mostly temporary aur treatable hota hai — tension lene se aur worse hota hai.

— Dr Nikhil Chauhan, Urologist

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Ok I can understand your problem. Iske liye apko counselling karna hoga. Treatment se phle problem ko jaan na zruri hai .

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Difficulty with maintaining an erection or experiencing erectile dysfunction (ED) can be influenced by numerous factors, both physical and psychological. Since this issue has surfaced post marriage, it’s important to consider if there are changes in lifestyle, stress, or relationship dynamics that might be affecting your sexual performance. One’s mental state can play a significant role here. If the issue of stress or anxiety is a factor, exploring stress management techniques could be very beneficial. On the physical side, conditions like high blood pressure, diabetes, obesity, and certain medications can contribute to ED. Regular exercise and a balanced diet can help improve overall vascular health, which is crucial for erections. If these lifestyle adjustments don’t help or if the problem persists, consulting a healthcare professional is strongly recommended. Medical evaluation might include checking your hormonal profiles like testosterone levels, or cardiovascular health, and making sure there’s no underlying health condition contributing to the problem. Psychological factors like anxiety or depression (and even over-reliance on pornography) can affect erectile function, so addressing these with mental health support could also be advantageous. Prescription medications, such as PDE5 inhibitors (like sildenafil), could be considered, but only after discussing with a healthcare provider who can evaluate your individual health status and risks. Remember, self-medication without guidance can be harmful. Getting a comprehensive evaluation can lead to a more targeted and effective treatment approach.

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Hello

This situation is actually quite common in the first few months after marriage, and in most cases it is treatable and temporary.

What he is describing sounds like Erectile Dysfunction, where the penis does not become fully hard or loses erection during sex. The important clue here is that earlier everything was normal, and the problem started recently after marriage. That usually points to psychological or situational causes rather than a permanent physical problem.

Stress, performance anxiety, fear of disappointing the partner, overthinking during sex, fatigue, poor sleep, and frequent pornography use can all reduce erection quality even in otherwise healthy men. Many newly married men experience this because expectations are high and anxiety increases. The fact that erection is not strong even after watching porn suggests the mind is under pressure or the body is tired, but it still does not automatically mean a serious disease.

If this has been happening for about 1–3 months, the first step is to focus on lifestyle and mental factors. Adequate sleep, regular exercise, reducing stress, limiting pornography, and not forcing intercourse every time can help the body recover normal response. Spending time on intimacy without pressure for penetration often improves confidence and erections naturally.

Medical causes are less likely at this age if he is otherwise healthy, but they can include diabetes, thyroid problems, low testosterone, obesity, smoking, alcohol use, or certain medications. If the issue continues beyond about 3 months, or erections are weak even during masturbation or in the morning, then a basic medical checkup is reasonable.

Treatment is very effective in most cases. Doctors may suggest counseling, lifestyle changes, or medications such as Sildenafil if needed, but many men improve without long-term medication once anxiety decreases.

In short, this is usually reversible, especially since the problem started recently after marriage. The key signs to seek medical evaluation sooner are complete inability to get an erection, loss of morning erections, presence of diabetes or other chronic illness, or the problem lasting more than about three months despite trying lifestyle adjustments.

Take care

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Hello ji Aapki problem se lag raha hai ya to erectile dysfunction hai stress ke wajah se ya nutritional deficiencies hai Aapki kuch precautions likh raha hun isko follow karna Agar 1-2 mahinon main fark na para to gynaecologist ko dikhana Hopefully aap jaldi theek ho Avoid heavy meals and alcohol Take ashwagandha or triphala once a day for 2 months Do meditation Do physical exercises atleast for half an hour Especially kegel exercises Take shilajeet for 1 month once a day Regards

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Hello Samajh sakta hoon, yeh sab naya hai aur kabhi kabhi pressure ya anxiety ki wajah se aise issues ho sakte hain. Koi baat nahi, yeh aam hai aur bahut logon ko aise samasyaon ka samna karna padta hai.

Kya kar sakte hain:

1. Relaxation Techniques: Stress aur anxiety ko kam karne ke liye deep breathing ya meditation try karein. Yeh aapko relax karne mein madad karega.

2. Communication: Apne partner se khul kar baat karein. Aksar, ek dusre se baat karne se pressure kam hota hai aur aap dono ko samajhne mein madad milti hai.

3. Foreplay: Sex se pehle zyada foreplay par focus karein. Yeh aapko aur aapke partner ko arousal mein madad karega.

4. Consult a Doctor: Agar yeh samasya lagataar ho rahi hai, toh kisi healthcare professional se baat karna achha rahega. Woh aapko behtar samadhan de sakte hain.

5. Avoid Comparisons: Porn dekhne se aapko unrealistic expectations ho sakti hain. Har kisi ka experience alag hota hai, isliye apne aap ko dusron se compare na karein.

Thank you

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Aap jo describe kar rahe ho wo Erectile dysfunction ho sakta hai, aur nayi shaadi ke baad yeh aksar performance anxiety ya stress ki wajah se hota hai—especially agar pehle sab normal tha.

Filhaal porn avoid karein, partner ke saath relaxation aur foreplay par focus karein, aur pressure kam karein—zyada sochna problem ko aur badhata hai.

Agar 2–4 weeks me improvement nahi hota, to ek urologist/sexologist se consult karein; zarurat padne par medicines jaise Sildenafil safely prescribe ki ja sakti hain.

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