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Question #29081
18 days ago
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What to do if I'm having trouble getting an erection with my girlfriend? - #29081

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Hey i have been a issue of small size and when my gf is with meI am not able to get it hard and increase it suggestsme something also I am masturbating everyday

How long have you been experiencing this issue?:

- 3-6 months

How would you describe the severity of your erectile issues?:

- Always unable to maintain an erection

Do you feel anxious or stressed when you're with your girlfriend?:

- No, not at all

Have you noticed any changes in your libido or interest in sex?:

- No change

How often do you masturbate?:

- Every day

Do you have any underlying health conditions or take any medications?:

- No, I'm healthy

Have you tried any treatments or remedies for this issue before?:

- No, this is the first time seeking help
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Dr. Shayeque Reza
I completed my medical degree in 2023, but honestly, my journey in healthcare started way before that. Since 2018, I’ve been actively involved in clinical practice—getting hands-on exposure across multiple departments like ENT, pediatrics, dermatology, ophthalmology, medicine, and emergency care. One of the most intense and defining phases of my training was working at a District Government Hospital for a full year during the COVID pandemic. It was chaotic, unpredictable, and exhausting—but it also grounded me in real-world medicine like no textbook ever could. Over time, I’ve worked in both OPD and IPD setups, handling everything from mild viral fevers to more stubborn, long-term conditions. These day-to-day experiences really built my base and taught me how to stay calm when things get hectic—and how to adjust fast when plans don’t go as expected. What I’ve learned most is that care isn't only about writing the right medicine. It’s about being fully there, listening properly, and making sure the person feels seen—not just treated. Alongside clinical work, I’ve also been exposed to preventive health, health education, and community outreach. These areas really matter to me because I believe real impact begins outside the hospital, with awareness and early intervention. My approach is always centered around clarity, empathy, and clinical logic—I like to make sure every patient knows exactly what’s going on and why we’re doing what we’re doing. I’ve always felt a pull towards general medicine and internal care, and honestly, I’m still learning every single day—each patient brings a new lesson. Medicine never really sits still, it keeps shifting, and I try to shift with it. Not just in terms of what I know, but also in how I listen and respond. For me, it’s always been about giving real care. Genuine, respectful, and the kind that actually helps a person heal—inside and out.
18 days ago
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Personal consultation is required for this. Counselling session needed.

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Dr. Arsha K Isac
I am a general dentist with 3+ years of working in real-world setups, and lemme say—every single patient teaches me something diff. It’s not just teeth honestly, it’s people… and how they feel walking into the chair. I try really hard to not make it just a “procedure thing.” I explain stuff in plain words—no confusing dental jargon, just straight talk—coz I feel like when ppl *get* what's going on, they feel safer n that makes all the difference. Worked with all ages—like, little kids who need that gentle nudge about brushing, to older folks who come in with long histories and sometimes just need someone to really sit n listen. It’s weirdly rewarding to see someone walk out lighter, not just 'coz their toothache's gone but coz they felt seen during the whole thing. A lot of ppl come in scared or just unsure, and I honestly take that seriously. I keep the vibe calm. Try to read their mood, don’t rush. I always tell myself—every smile’s got a story, even the broken ones. My thing is: comfort first, then precision. I want the outcome to last, not just look good for a week. Not tryna claim perfection or magic solutions—just consistent, clear, hands-on care where patients feel heard. I think dentistry should *fit* the person, not push them into a box. That's kinda been my philosophy from day one. And yeah, maybe sometimes I overexplain or spend a bit too long checking alignment again but hey, if it means someone eats pain-free or finally smiles wide in pics again? Worth it. Every time.
18 days ago
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Hello

Trouble getting an erection with your girlfriend for the past few months, while otherwise being healthy and masturbating daily, is very commonly due to performance-related erection difficulty rather than a permanent physical problem. In young men, the most frequent cause is **Erectile Dysfunction related to habits, stimulation patterns, or anxiety around partnered sex, even if you don’t consciously feel stressed. The fact that your libido is normal is a good sign.

Daily masturbation, especially with strong grip or frequent pornography use, can temporarily reduce sensitivity and make it harder to get or maintain an erection with a partner. This is sometimes called “conditioning” of arousal to a specific type of stimulation. Reducing masturbation frequency to about 2–3 times per week, avoiding porn for a few weeks, and focusing on gradual intimacy with your partner often improves erections within several weeks.

Regarding penis size, many men worry about being “small” when they are actually within the normal range. Size rarely prevents erection; erection firmness is usually more about blood flow, stimulation, and mental focus than size itself.

What you can do now is give your body a reset: reduce masturbation frequency, prioritize sleep, exercise regularly (especially strength training and cardio), limit alcohol or smoking if applicable, and allow more relaxed, pressure-free intimacy rather than focusing on performance. These lifestyle changes alone fix the issue for many healthy men in their 20s.

You should consider seeing a doctor if the problem persists beyond about 3 months despite these changes, if you also have very low morning erections, reduced sexual desire, or symptoms like fatigue or low energy, because then basic tests such as testosterone, blood sugar, and thyroid function may be useful.

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Difficulty getting an erection can be frustrating and can stem from a variety of factors, including psychological or physiological causes. Firstly, it’s important to consider the impact that your lifestyle and habits might have. Masturbating every day is not inherently problematic, but if it results in reduced sensitivity or performance anxiety, it may contribute to your situation. Reducing the frequency might be worth trying. Stress or anxiety, particularly related to performance or relationship dynamics, can also play a significant role in erectile difficulties. Ensuring clear communication with your partner and addressing any stressors or anxieties together might help alleviate some of these pressures. If your difficulty in maintaining an erection is persistent, you might want to explore underlying health conditions or contributing factors. Conditions such as high blood pressure, diabetes, or issues with blood circulation can affect erectile function. Assessing your general health and managing any such conditions is crucial. Engaging in regular physical activity, maintaining a balanced diet, and avoiding smoking and excessive alcohol can have a positive influence on erectile function. When these adjustments don’t bring improvement, it might be helpful to consult a healthcare professional who can evaluate any underlying issues and suggest treatment options such as medication, therapy, or other interventions. Avoid self-diagnosis or treatment via non-prescription pills, as they can be unsafe and may mask more serious health issues. If there’s any concern around your size or how it relates to sexual health, consulting with a healthcare provider can also give you a better understanding and reassurance. Always prioritize open communication about these concerns and seek professional advice as needed for tailored solutions.

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Dr. Bharat Joshi
I’m a periodontist and academician with a strong clinical and teaching background. Over the last 4 years and 8 months, I’ve been actively involved in dental education, guiding students at multiple levels including dental hygienist, BDS, and MDS programs. Currently, I serve as a Reader at MMCDSR in Ambala, Haryana—a role that allows me to merge my academic passion with hands-on experience. Clinically, I’ve been practicing dentistry for the past 12 years. From routine procedures like scaling and root planing to more advanced cases involving grafts, biopsies, and implant surgeries. Honestly, I still find joy in doing a simple RCT when it’s needed. It’s not just about the procedure but making sure the patient feels comfortable and safe. Academically, I have 26 research publications to my credit. I’m on the editorial boards of the Archives of Dental Research and Journal of Dental Research and Oral Health, and I’ve spent a lot of time reviewing manuscripts—from case reports to meta-analyses and even book reviews. I was honored to receive the “Best Editor” award by Innovative Publications, and Athena Publications recognized me as an “excellent reviewer,” which honestly came as a bit of a surprise! In 2025, I had the opportunity to present a guest lecture in Italy on traumatic oral lesions. Sharing my work and learning from peers globally has been incredibly fulfilling. Outside academics and clinics, I’ve also worked in the pharmaceutical sector as a Drug Safety Associate for about 3 years, focusing on pharmacovigilance. That role really sharpened my attention to detail and deepened my understanding of drug interactions and adverse effects. My goal is to keep learning, and give every patient and student my absolute best.
18 days ago
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Hello dear See there can be chances of erectile dysfunction Iam suggesting some precautions for improvement Please follow them for atleast a month Avoid heavy meals and alcohol Take ashwagandha or triphala once a day for 2 months Do meditation Do physical exercises atleast for half an hour Especially kegel exercises Take shilajeet for 1 month once a day In case of no improvement in 1 month, kindly consult gynaecologist for further clarification Hopefully you recover soon Regards

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