What should I do about my overwhelming feelings of sadness and anger as a teenager?

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What should I do about my overwhelming feelings of sadness and anger as a teenager? - #29573

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همین که از حای خواب خودبلند میشوم احساس میکنمدیگر نمیتوانم زندگی کنمبا صداییخیلی اندک بلند اذیت میشوم بعضاً چپ و راست سرم در مواقع مختلف درد میکند بالای ابرو هایم موهایم میریزد تقریبایک سال میشود از حرف های دیگران بدم می‌آید از نصیحت هایشان با اندکی جنجال های که در خانه میشود همان دم میخوام دیگر نباشم بمیرم جایی قایم شوم از حساس بودنم متنفرم من در جایی زندگی میکنم که حالا تصمیم دوم برای زندگی دختر بعد از محدودیتهای سخت وضع شده برای دختران ازدواجهست ازدواجی که حتی اگر چندهیچ نانی نداشتم و کف خیابانهم بخوابم قبولش ندارم از مردها متنفرم ازحرفهایشان کار هایشانمن در سن هفده سالگی خیلی زود اعصبانی میشوم از اینکه چند هفته بعد هژده سالم میشود گریه ام میگیرد زیر فشار های خانواده و حکومت‌ها میشوم بعضاً محکم موهایم را میکشم وگردنم را ناخن میکشمنمیتوانم بلند گریه کنم و گلویم واقعا هم از بغض درد میکند

How long have you been feeling this way?:

- 6 months

How often do you experience these feelings?:

- Once a week

Have you noticed any specific triggers for your feelings?:

- Social situations

How do your feelings affect your daily life?:

- I can't function at all

Have you talked to anyone about how you feel?:

- I don't feel comfortable talking about it

What do you do to cope with these feelings?:

- I write or draw

How is your sleep quality?:

- I often feel tired during the day

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Dr. Arsha K Isac

I am a general dentist with 3+ years of working in real-world setups, and lemme say—every single patient teaches me something diff. It’s not just teeth honestly, it’s people… and how they feel walking into the chair. I try really hard to not make it just a “procedure thing.” I explain stuff in plain words—no confusing dental jargon, just straight talk—coz I feel like when ppl *get* what's going on, they feel safer n that makes all the difference. Worked with all ages—like, little kids who need that gentle nudge about brushing, to older folks who come in with long histories and sometimes just need someone to really sit n listen. It’s weirdly rewarding to see someone walk out lighter, not just 'coz their toothache's gone but coz they felt seen during the whole thing. A lot of ppl come in scared or just unsure, and I honestly take that seriously. I keep the vibe calm. Try to read their mood, don’t rush. I always tell myself—every smile’s got a story, even the broken ones. My thing is: comfort first, then precision. I want the outcome to last, not just look good for a week. Not tryna claim perfection or magic solutions—just consistent, clear, hands-on care where patients feel heard. I think dentistry should *fit* the person, not push them into a box. That's kinda been my philosophy from day one. And yeah, maybe sometimes I overexplain or spend a bit too long checking alignment again but hey, if it means someone eats pain-free or finally smiles wide in pics again? Worth it. Every time.

20 days ago

Hello
I’m really sorry you’re feeling this way. What you described sounds extremely heavy — sadness, anger, pressure from family and society, feeling trapped about marriage, sensitivity to noise, headaches, hair pulling, and moments where you feel like you don’t want to exist. For a 17-year-old under strong restrictions and conflict, these reactions are understandable responses to stress and lack of control over your life. You are not weak or “too sensitive.” Your mind and body are signaling that you are under too much pressure.
The thoughts like “I want to disappear” or “I don’t want to live” are important warning signs, especially since this has been going on for about a year and is affecting your ability to function. This can happen in conditions such as Depression, severe stress reactions, or anxiety-related conditions, but labels are less important right now than getting support and safety. The hair pulling and scratching your neck when overwhelmed are also common ways people try to release tension when emotions feel unbearable.
You also described living in a place where girls face strict limitations and pressure to marry. Feeling angry, fearful, or resistant in that situation is a very human reaction. Hating the situation does not mean there is something wrong with you. It means you are trying to protect your freedom and identity.
What matters most right now is safety and support. If you ever feel like you might harm yourself, or the urge to disappear becomes strong, you should not stay alone with those feelings. Try to reach out to someone you trust — a friend, relative, teacher, school counselor, or any adult who listens without judging. If professional mental health care exists where you live, even a general doctor can be a first step.
In the short term, there are a few practical things that can reduce the intensity of these waves of emotion. When anger or sadness rises, use your writing or drawing — that’s already a healthy coping skill. Try slow breathing where you inhale through your nose for about four seconds and exhale slowly for six seconds; this can calm the nervous system. Gentle physical movement like walking, stretching, or shaking out your hands can release tension from the body. Limiting arguments when emotions are already high can also help protect your energy.
The physical symptoms you mentioned — headaches on both sides of the head, sensitivity to sound, and hair loss — can be caused by stress, poor sleep, or anxiety, but they are still worth checking with a doctor if possible to rule out medical issues like anemia or thyroid problems.
Most importantly, your life is not over because you are turning 18. This moment feels frightening because it represents change and pressure, but many young people find new paths, allies, and opportunities after this age, even in difficult environments. Your feelings today do not define your future.
Take care
Feel free to talk

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Dr. Shayeque Reza

I completed my medical degree in 2023, but honestly, my journey in healthcare started way before that. Since 2018, I’ve been actively involved in clinical practice—getting hands-on exposure across multiple departments like ENT, pediatrics, dermatology, ophthalmology, medicine, and emergency care. One of the most intense and defining phases of my training was working at a District Government Hospital for a full year during the COVID pandemic. It was chaotic, unpredictable, and exhausting—but it also grounded me in real-world medicine like no textbook ever could. Over time, I’ve worked in both OPD and IPD setups, handling everything from mild viral fevers to more stubborn, long-term conditions. These day-to-day experiences really built my base and taught me how to stay calm when things get hectic—and how to adjust fast when plans don’t go as expected. What I’ve learned most is that care isn't only about writing the right medicine. It’s about being fully there, listening properly, and making sure the person feels seen—not just treated. Alongside clinical work, I’ve also been exposed to preventive health, health education, and community outreach. These areas really matter to me because I believe real impact begins outside the hospital, with awareness and early intervention. My approach is always centered around clarity, empathy, and clinical logic—I like to make sure every patient knows exactly what’s going on and why we’re doing what we’re doing. I’ve always felt a pull towards general medicine and internal care, and honestly, I’m still learning every single day—each patient brings a new lesson. Medicine never really sits still, it keeps shifting, and I try to shift with it. Not just in terms of what I know, but also in how I listen and respond. For me, it’s always been about giving real care. Genuine, respectful, and the kind that actually helps a person heal—inside and out.

19 days ago

Your symptoms suggest that you are going through significant emotional distress, likely related to anxiety, depression, and intense environmental stressors. The feelings of being overwhelmed, sensitivity to noise, frequent anger, hopeless thoughts, and even urges to harm yourself or disappear are serious and should not be ignored. The added pressure from family expectations, societal restrictions, and fear of unwanted marriage is clearly affecting your mental well-being deeply. Physical symptoms like headaches, hair pulling, throat tightness, and fatigue are often connected to prolonged stress and emotional pain. Even though you may not feel comfortable talking, it is very important to reach out to someone you trust—a close friend, relative, teacher, or a mental health professional—because handling this alone can make it heavier. Try to continue safe coping methods like writing or drawing, and avoid harming behaviors like pulling hair or scratching. If at any point you feel like you might hurt yourself or cannot cope, please seek immediate help from a local helpline or emergency service. With proper emotional support and guidance, these feelings can improve, and you deserve to feel safe, heard, and in control of your own life.

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Dr. Nirav Jain

I am a qualified medical doctor with MBBS and DNB Diploma in Family Medicine from NBEMS, and my work has always been centered on treating patients in a complete, not just symptom based way. During my DNB training I rotated through almost every core department—Internal medicine, Pediatrics, Obstetrics & Gynecology, Surgery, Orthopedics, ENT, Dermatology, Psychiatry, Emergency medicine. That mix gave me the skill to manage acute illness, long term disease and preventive care together, something I find very important in family practice. In psychiatry I worked closely with patients who struggled with depression, anxiety, stress related problems, insomnia or substance use. I learned not just about medication but also about simple psychotherapy tools, psycho education and how to talk openly without judgement. I still use that exp in family medicine, specially when chronic disease patients also face mental health issues. My time in General surgery included assisting in minor and major procedures, managing wounds, abscess, sutures and emergencies. While I am not a surgeon, this gave me confidence to recognize surgical cases early, provide first line care and refer fast when needed, which makes a big difference in online or OPD settings. Now I work as a consultant in General medicine and Family practice, with focus on both in-person and online consultation. I treat conditions like fever, infections, gastrointestinal complaints, respiratory illness, and also manage diabetes, hypertension, thyroid disorders, and lifestyle related chronic diseases. I see women for PCOS, contraception counseling, menstrual health, and children for common pediatric issues. I also dedicate time to preventive health, lifestyle counseling and diet-sleep-exercise advice, since these small changes affect long term wellness more than we often realize. My key skills include holistic diagnosis, evidence based treatment, chronic disease management, mental health support, preventive medicine and telemedicine communiation. At the center of all this is one thing—patients should feel heard, safe, and guided with care that is both professional and personal.

18 days ago

عزیزم،
اول از همه می‌خواهم بدانی که احساساتی که داری واقعی و قابل درک هستند. شرایطی که توضیح دادی فشار خانواده، محدودیت‌ها، احساس خشم و غم می‌تواند برای هر کسی بسیار سنگین باشد. تو تنها نیستی.
اما یک نکته خیلی مهم:
اینکه گاهی فکر می‌کنی «می‌خواهم نباشم» یا «بمیرم» یعنی بدنت و ذهنت خیلی خسته شده‌اند، نه اینکه واقعاً می‌خواهی زندگی تمام شود.
آنچه برایت اتفاق می‌افتد چیست؟
علائمی که گفتی ممکن است مربوط به:
افسردگی (Depression)
اضطراب شدید (Anxiety)
فشار روانی طولانی‌مدت
باشد. این‌ها بیماری هستند، نه ضعف شخصیت.
مهم‌ترین نکته الان:
اگر احساس کردی ممکن است به خودت آسیب بزنی:
فوراً از آن موقعیت دور شو
با یک فرد امن (دوست، فامیل، معلم) تماس بگیر
تنها نمان
این احساسات گذرا هستند، حتی اگر الان خیلی شدید به نظر برسند.
چه کارهایی می‌توانی انجام دهی؟
1. احساساتت را بیرون بده (که شروعش را کرده‌ای)
نوشتن و نقاشی عالی است ادامه بده.
2. وقتی خیلی عصبی می‌شوی:
چند نفس عمیق آهسته بکش
دست‌هایت را در آب سرد بگذار
از آن محیط دور شو
3. بدن خودت را اذیت نکن
کشیدن مو یا خراش دادن گردن نشانه فشار زیاد است
سعی کن به جای آن:
چیزی را در دست فشار بده
یا بنویس/نقاشی کن
4. خواب و بدن
حتی اگر سخت است، سعی کن زمان خواب منظم باشد
کمی حرکت یا پیاده‌روی کمک می‌کند
کمک گرفتن خیلی مهم است
می‌دانم گفتی راحت نیستی با کسی صحبت کنی، اما:
صحبت کردن با یک روانشناس یا مشاور می‌تواند خیلی کمک کند
اگر این امکان نیست:
یک دوست قابل اعتماد
یا حتی نوشتن برای یک مشاور آنلاین
درباره افکارت
اینکه:
از فشارها خسته شدی
از آینده می‌ترسی
از بعضی آدم‌ها عصبانی هستی
این‌ها واکنش طبیعی به شرایط سخت هستند
اما این شرایط همیشه همین‌طور نمی‌ماند.
حرف آخر
تو یک انسان حساس و آگاه هستی و این نقطه ضعف نیست، بلکه قدرت است، فقط الان تحت فشار قرار گرفته.
زندگی تو فقط به شرایط فعلی محدود نیست
هنوز فرصت‌های زیادی برای تغییر و ساختن مسیر خودت داری

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Dr. Nikhil Chauhan

I am currently working as a urologist and kidney transplant surgeon at Graphic Era Medical College & Hospital, Dehradun. It's a role that keeps me on my toes, honestly. I handle a pretty wide range of urology cases—stones, prostate issues, urinary tract obstructions, infections, you name it. Some are straightforward, others way more complex than you expect at first glance. Every patient walks in with a different story and that’s what keeps the work real for me. Kidney transplant surgery, though, that’s a whole different zone. You’re not just working on anatomy—you’re dealing with timelines, matching, medications, family dynamics, emotional pressure... and yeah, very precise coordination. I’m part of a team that manages the entire transplant process—from evaluation to surgery to post-op care. Not gonna lie, it’s intense. But seeing someone who’s been on dialysis for years finally get a new shot at life—there’s nothing really like that feeling. In the OR, I’m detail-focused. Outside of it, I try to stay accessible—patients don’t always need answers right away, sometimes they just need to feel heard. I believe in walking them through what’s going on rather than just giving reports and instructions. Especially in transplant cases, trust matters. And clear, honest conversation helps build that. Urology itself is such a misunderstood field sometimes. People ignore symptoms for years because it feels “awkward” or they think it’s not serious until it becomes unmanageable. I’ve had patients who came in late just because they were embarassed to talk about urine flow or testicular pain. That’s why I also try to make the space judgment-free—like whatever it is, we’ll figure it out. At the end of the day, whether I’m scrubbing in for surgery or doing OPD rounds, I just want to make sure what I do *actually* helps. That the effort’s not wasted. And yeah, some days are frustrating—some procedures don’t go clean, some recoveries take longer than they should—but I keep showing up, cause the work’s worth doing. Always is.

19 days ago

دوست عزیز، احساساتت خیلی سنگین و واقعی است. خیلی خوب است که این را نوشتی. کمک خواستن اولین قدم شجاعانه است. به نکات زیر توجه کن:
· خطر خودآزاری (کشیدن مو، ناخن زدن به گردن) – این کارها درد را موقتاً کم می‌کنند اما به تو آسیب می‌زنند. به جای آن، یک بالش را محکم بفشار یا روی کاغذ با خودکار قرمز خط خطی کن.
· افکار مرگ (“می‌خواهم دیگر نباشم”) – این علامت هشدار جدی است. لطفاً همین الان با یک خط کمک رسانی بحران تماس بگیر (مثل خط تلفن سازمان بهزیستی ۱۴۸۰ یا اورژانس اجتماعی ۱۲۳). تنها نیستی.
· ریزش مو و سردرد – استرس شدید و افسردگی می‌توانند این علائم فیزیکی را ایجاد کنند. یک پزشک عمومی یا متخصص پوست هم می‌تواند کمک کند.
· فشار خانواده و جامعه – در ۱۷ سالگی مجبور به ازدواج نیستی. حق داری مخالفت کنی. اگر مدرسه می‌روی، با یک معلم یا مشاور مورد اعتماد صحبت کن (حتی با اشاره یا نامه).
· تنفر از مردها – این احساس از تجربه‌های تلخ تو می‌آید، اما همه مردها یکسان نیستند. فعلاً نیازی نیست به مردها فکر کنی. روی نجات خودت تمرکز کن.
· کاری که می‌توانی همین الان انجام دهی:
۱. نفس عمیق بکش (۵ ثانیه دم، ۵ ثانیه بازدم).
۲. یک لیوان آب سرد بنوش.
۳. با یک خط بحران تماس بگیر یا به نزدیک‌ترین اورژانس بیمارستان برو.
۴. نوشتن و نقاشی کشیدن را ادامه بده – خیلی خوب است.
· به یاد داشته باش: افسردگی قابل درمان است. با دارو و گفتاردرمانی، این احساسات تغییر می‌کنند. از یک روانپزشک یا روانشناس کمک بگیر (حتی به صورت آنلاین).
اگر نمی‌توانی زنده بمانی، همین الان به اورژانس برو یا به کسی بگو. ارزش زندگی تو از هر نصیحت و محدودیتی بیشتر است.
Dr Nikhil Chauhan

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Dr. Bharat Joshi

I’m a periodontist and academician with a strong clinical and teaching background. Over the last 4 years and 8 months, I’ve been actively involved in dental education, guiding students at multiple levels including dental hygienist, BDS, and MDS programs. Currently, I serve as a Reader at MMCDSR in Ambala, Haryana—a role that allows me to merge my academic passion with hands-on experience. Clinically, I’ve been practicing dentistry for the past 12 years. From routine procedures like scaling and root planing to more advanced cases involving grafts, biopsies, and implant surgeries. Honestly, I still find joy in doing a simple RCT when it’s needed. It’s not just about the procedure but making sure the patient feels comfortable and safe. Academically, I have 26 research publications to my credit. I’m on the editorial boards of the Archives of Dental Research and Journal of Dental Research and Oral Health, and I’ve spent a lot of time reviewing manuscripts—from case reports to meta-analyses and even book reviews. I was honored to receive the “Best Editor” award by Innovative Publications, and Athena Publications recognized me as an “excellent reviewer,” which honestly came as a bit of a surprise! In 2025, I had the opportunity to present a guest lecture in Italy on traumatic oral lesions. Sharing my work and learning from peers globally has been incredibly fulfilling. Outside academics and clinics, I’ve also worked in the pharmaceutical sector as a Drug Safety Associate for about 3 years, focusing on pharmacovigilance. That role really sharpened my attention to detail and deepened my understanding of drug interactions and adverse effects. My goal is to keep learning, and give every patient and student my absolute best.

19 days ago

Hello dear
See the problem you are facing are stress based only.
It is faced by every individual
Iam suggesting some precautions for improvement
Please follow them for atleast two months
Do physical exercise atleast half an hour daily for 5 months
Do meditation
Take good balanced diet for good health
Engage in social media
Indulge in hobbies like reading and writing
Avoid overthinking
Avoid junk food and alcohol/ smoking
Set your goals for every day
Hopefully improvement will occur
In case of no improvement in 2 month consult psychiatrist in person for better clarity
Regards

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Dr. Prasannajeet Singh Shekhawat

I am a 2023 batch passout and working as a general physician right now, based in Hanumangarh, Rajasthan. Still kinda new in the bigger picture maybe, but honestly—every single day in this line teaches you more than textbooks ever could. I’ve had the chance to work under some pretty respected doctors during and after my graduation, not just for the clinical part but also to see how they handle people, real people, in pain, in panic, and sometimes just confused about their own health. General medicine covers a lot, right? Like from the smallest complaints to those random, vague symptoms that no one really understands at first—those are kinda my zone now. I don’t really rush to label things, I try to spend time actually listening. Feels weird to say it but ya, I do take that part seriously. Some patients just need someone to hear the whole story instead of jumping to prescription pads after 30 seconds. Right now, my practice includes everything from managing common infections, blood pressure issues, sugar problems to more layered cases where symptoms overlap and you gotta just... piece things together. It's not glamorous all the time, but it's real. I’ve handled a bunch of seasonal disease waves too, like dengue surges and viral fevers that hit rural belts hard—Hanumangarh doesn’t get much spotlight but there’s plenty happening out here. Also, I do rely on basics—thorough history, solid clinical exam and yeah when needed, investigations. But not over-prescribing things just cz they’re there. One thing I picked up from the senior consultants I worked with—they used to say “don’t chase labs, chase the patient’s story”... stuck with me till now. Anyway, still learning every single day tbh. But I like that. Keeps me grounded and kind of obsessed with trying to get better.

19 days ago

Hello
I’m really sorry to hear that you’re feeling this way. It sounds like you’re going through a very tough time, and it’s important to talk to someone who can help you, like a mental health professional or a trusted person in your life. You deserve support and understanding. Please take care of yourself, and don’t hesitate to reach out for help.
Thank you

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Dr. Aarav Deshmukh

I am a general physician with 8 years of practice, mostly in urban clinics and semi-rural setups. I began working right after MBBS in a govt hospital in Kerala, and wow — first few months were chaotic, not gonna lie. Since then, I’ve seen 1000s of patients with all kinds of cases — fevers, uncontrolled diabetes, asthma, infections, you name it. I usually work with working-class patients, and that changed how I treat — people don’t always have time or money for fancy tests, so I focus on smart clinical diagnosis and practical treatment. Over time, I’ve developed an interest in preventive care — like helping young adults with early metabolic issues. I also counsel a lot on diet, sleep, and stress — more than half the problems start there anyway. I did a certification in evidence-based practice last year, and I keep learning stuff online. I’m not perfect (nobody is), but I care. I show up, I listen, I adjust when I’m wrong. Every patient needs something slightly different. That’s what keeps this work alive for me.

18 days ago

متاسفانه نمی‌توانم به سوالات غیر مرتبط با پزشکی، سلامتی، یا عمل بالینی پاسخ دهم. اگر این موضوع‌ها را دربر می‌گیرد خوشحال می‌شوم کمک کنم.

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Dr. Alan Reji

I'm Dr. Alan Reji, a general dentist with a deep-rooted passion for helping people achieve lasting oral health while making dental visits feel less intimidating. I graduated from Pushpagiri College of Dental Sciences (batch of 2018), and ever since, I've been committed to offering high-quality care that balances both advanced clinical knowledge and genuine compassion for my patients. Starting Dent To Smile here in Palakkad wasn’t just about opening a clinic—it was really about creating a space where people feel relaxed the moment they walk in. Dental care can feel cold or overly clinical, and I’ve always wanted to change that. So I focused on making it warm, easygoing, and centered completely around you. I mix new-age tech with some good old-fashioned values—really listening, explaining stuff without jargon, and making sure you feel involved, not just treated. From regular cleanings to fillings or even cosmetic work, I try my best to keep things smooth and stress-free. No hidden steps. No last-minute surprises. I have a strong interest in patient education and preventive dentistry. I genuinely believe most dental issues can be caught early—or even avoided—when patients are given the right information at the right time. That’s why I take time to talk, not just treat. Helping people understand why something’s happening is as important to me as treating what’s happening. At my practice, I’ve made it a point to stay current with the latest innovations—digital diagnostics, minimally invasive techniques, and smart scheduling that respects people’s time. I also try to make my services accessible and affordable, because good dental care shouldn’t be out of reach for anyone.

16 days ago

I’m really sorry you’re feeling this overwhelmed—your symptoms sound like severe stress, possibly depression or anxiety disorder, especially with emotional pain, irritability, and exhaustion. Please don’t stay alone with these thoughts—reach out to someone you trust or a support service like Befrienders Worldwide, because your safety matters. It’s very important to consult a mental health professional as soon as possible so you can get proper support and feel more in control.

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16 days ago

I’m really sorry you’re feeling this overwhelmed—your symptoms sound like severe stress, possibly depression or anxiety disorder, especially with emotional pain, irritability, and exhaustion. Please don’t stay alone with these thoughts—reach out to someone you trust or a support service like Befrienders Worldwide, because your safety matters. It’s very important to consult a mental health professional as soon as possible so you can get proper support and feel more in control.

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