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Question #29573
96 days ago
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What should I do about my overwhelming feelings of sadness and anger as a teenager?

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همین که از حای خواب خودبلند میشوم احساس میکنمدیگر نمیتوانم زندگی کنمبا صداییخیلی اندک بلند اذیت میشوم بعضاً چپ و راست سرم در مواقع مختلف درد میکند بالای ابرو هایم موهایم میریزد تقریبایک سال میشود از حرف های دیگران بدم می‌آید از نصیحت هایشان با اندکی جنجال های که در خانه میشود همان دم میخوام دیگر نباشم بمیرم جایی قایم شوم از حساس بودنم متنفرم من در جایی زندگی میکنم که حالا تصمیم دوم برای زندگی دختر بعد از محدودیتهای سخت وضع شده برای دختران ازدواجهست ازدواجی که حتی اگر چندهیچ نانی نداشتم و کف خیابانهم بخوابم قبولش ندارم از مردها متنفرم ازحرفهایشان کار هایشانمن در سن هفده سالگی خیلی زود اعصبانی میشوم از اینکه چند هفته بعد هژده سالم میشود گریه ام میگیرد زیر فشار های خانواده و حکومت‌ها میشوم بعضاً محکم موهایم را میکشم وگردنم را ناخن میکشمنمیتوانم بلند گریه کنم و گلویم واقعا هم از بغض درد میکند

How long have you been feeling this way?:

- 6 months

How often do you experience these feelings?:

- Once a week

Have you noticed any specific triggers for your feelings?:

- Social situations

How do your feelings affect your daily life?:

- I can't function at all

Have you talked to anyone about how you feel?:

- I don't feel comfortable talking about it

What do you do to cope with these feelings?:

- I write or draw

How is your sleep quality?:

- I often feel tired during the day
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Hello

I’m really sorry you’re feeling this way. What you described sounds extremely heavy — sadness, anger, pressure from family and society, feeling trapped about marriage, sensitivity to noise, headaches, hair pulling, and moments where you feel like you don’t want to exist. For a 17-year-old under strong restrictions and conflict, these reactions are understandable responses to stress and lack of control over your life. You are not weak or “too sensitive.” Your mind and body are signaling that you are under too much pressure.

The thoughts like “I want to disappear” or “I don’t want to live” are important warning signs, especially since this has been going on for about a year and is affecting your ability to function. This can happen in conditions such as Depression, severe stress reactions, or anxiety-related conditions, but labels are less important right now than getting support and safety. The hair pulling and scratching your neck when overwhelmed are also common ways people try to release tension when emotions feel unbearable.

You also described living in a place where girls face strict limitations and pressure to marry. Feeling angry, fearful, or resistant in that situation is a very human reaction. Hating the situation does not mean there is something wrong with you. It means you are trying to protect your freedom and identity.

What matters most right now is safety and support. If you ever feel like you might harm yourself, or the urge to disappear becomes strong, you should not stay alone with those feelings. Try to reach out to someone you trust — a friend, relative, teacher, school counselor, or any adult who listens without judging. If professional mental health care exists where you live, even a general doctor can be a first step.

In the short term, there are a few practical things that can reduce the intensity of these waves of emotion. When anger or sadness rises, use your writing or drawing — that’s already a healthy coping skill. Try slow breathing where you inhale through your nose for about four seconds and exhale slowly for six seconds; this can calm the nervous system. Gentle physical movement like walking, stretching, or shaking out your hands can release tension from the body. Limiting arguments when emotions are already high can also help protect your energy.

The physical symptoms you mentioned — headaches on both sides of the head, sensitivity to sound, and hair loss — can be caused by stress, poor sleep, or anxiety, but they are still worth checking with a doctor if possible to rule out medical issues like anemia or thyroid problems.

Most importantly, your life is not over because you are turning 18. This moment feels frightening because it represents change and pressure, but many young people find new paths, allies, and opportunities after this age, even in difficult environments. Your feelings today do not define your future.

Take care Feel free to talk

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Your symptoms suggest that you are going through significant emotional distress, likely related to anxiety, depression, and intense environmental stressors. The feelings of being overwhelmed, sensitivity to noise, frequent anger, hopeless thoughts, and even urges to harm yourself or disappear are serious and should not be ignored. The added pressure from family expectations, societal restrictions, and fear of unwanted marriage is clearly affecting your mental well-being deeply. Physical symptoms like headaches, hair pulling, throat tightness, and fatigue are often connected to prolonged stress and emotional pain. Even though you may not feel comfortable talking, it is very important to reach out to someone you trust—a close friend, relative, teacher, or a mental health professional—because handling this alone can make it heavier. Try to continue safe coping methods like writing or drawing, and avoid harming behaviors like pulling hair or scratching. If at any point you feel like you might hurt yourself or cannot cope, please seek immediate help from a local helpline or emergency service. With proper emotional support and guidance, these feelings can improve, and you deserve to feel safe, heard, and in control of your own life.

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عزیزم، اول از همه می‌خواهم بدانی که احساساتی که داری واقعی و قابل درک هستند. شرایطی که توضیح دادی فشار خانواده، محدودیت‌ها، احساس خشم و غم می‌تواند برای هر کسی بسیار سنگین باشد. تو تنها نیستی. اما یک نکته خیلی مهم: اینکه گاهی فکر می‌کنی «می‌خواهم نباشم» یا «بمیرم» یعنی بدنت و ذهنت خیلی خسته شده‌اند، نه اینکه واقعاً می‌خواهی زندگی تمام شود. آنچه برایت اتفاق می‌افتد چیست؟ علائمی که گفتی ممکن است مربوط به: افسردگی (Depression) اضطراب شدید (Anxiety) فشار روانی طولانی‌مدت باشد. این‌ها بیماری هستند، نه ضعف شخصیت. مهم‌ترین نکته الان: اگر احساس کردی ممکن است به خودت آسیب بزنی: فوراً از آن موقعیت دور شو با یک فرد امن (دوست، فامیل، معلم) تماس بگیر تنها نمان این احساسات گذرا هستند، حتی اگر الان خیلی شدید به نظر برسند. چه کارهایی می‌توانی انجام دهی؟ 1. احساساتت را بیرون بده (که شروعش را کرده‌ای) نوشتن و نقاشی عالی است ادامه بده. 2. وقتی خیلی عصبی می‌شوی: چند نفس عمیق آهسته بکش دست‌هایت را در آب سرد بگذار از آن محیط دور شو 3. بدن خودت را اذیت نکن کشیدن مو یا خراش دادن گردن نشانه فشار زیاد است سعی کن به جای آن: چیزی را در دست فشار بده یا بنویس/نقاشی کن 4. خواب و بدن حتی اگر سخت است، سعی کن زمان خواب منظم باشد کمی حرکت یا پیاده‌روی کمک می‌کند کمک گرفتن خیلی مهم است می‌دانم گفتی راحت نیستی با کسی صحبت کنی، اما: صحبت کردن با یک روانشناس یا مشاور می‌تواند خیلی کمک کند اگر این امکان نیست: یک دوست قابل اعتماد یا حتی نوشتن برای یک مشاور آنلاین درباره افکارت اینکه: از فشارها خسته شدی از آینده می‌ترسی از بعضی آدم‌ها عصبانی هستی این‌ها واکنش طبیعی به شرایط سخت هستند اما این شرایط همیشه همین‌طور نمی‌ماند. حرف آخر تو یک انسان حساس و آگاه هستی و این نقطه ضعف نیست، بلکه قدرت است، فقط الان تحت فشار قرار گرفته. زندگی تو فقط به شرایط فعلی محدود نیست هنوز فرصت‌های زیادی برای تغییر و ساختن مسیر خودت داری

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دوست عزیز، احساساتت خیلی سنگین و واقعی است. خیلی خوب است که این را نوشتی. کمک خواستن اولین قدم شجاعانه است. به نکات زیر توجه کن:

· خطر خودآزاری (کشیدن مو، ناخن زدن به گردن) – این کارها درد را موقتاً کم می‌کنند اما به تو آسیب می‌زنند. به جای آن، یک بالش را محکم بفشار یا روی کاغذ با خودکار قرمز خط خطی کن. · افکار مرگ (“می‌خواهم دیگر نباشم”) – این علامت هشدار جدی است. لطفاً همین الان با یک خط کمک رسانی بحران تماس بگیر (مثل خط تلفن سازمان بهزیستی ۱۴۸۰ یا اورژانس اجتماعی ۱۲۳). تنها نیستی. · ریزش مو و سردرد – استرس شدید و افسردگی می‌توانند این علائم فیزیکی را ایجاد کنند. یک پزشک عمومی یا متخصص پوست هم می‌تواند کمک کند. · فشار خانواده و جامعه – در ۱۷ سالگی مجبور به ازدواج نیستی. حق داری مخالفت کنی. اگر مدرسه می‌روی، با یک معلم یا مشاور مورد اعتماد صحبت کن (حتی با اشاره یا نامه). · تنفر از مردها – این احساس از تجربه‌های تلخ تو می‌آید، اما همه مردها یکسان نیستند. فعلاً نیازی نیست به مردها فکر کنی. روی نجات خودت تمرکز کن. · کاری که می‌توانی همین الان انجام دهی: ۱. نفس عمیق بکش (۵ ثانیه دم، ۵ ثانیه بازدم). ۲. یک لیوان آب سرد بنوش. ۳. با یک خط بحران تماس بگیر یا به نزدیک‌ترین اورژانس بیمارستان برو. ۴. نوشتن و نقاشی کشیدن را ادامه بده – خیلی خوب است. · به یاد داشته باش: افسردگی قابل درمان است. با دارو و گفتاردرمانی، این احساسات تغییر می‌کنند. از یک روانپزشک یا روانشناس کمک بگیر (حتی به صورت آنلاین).

اگر نمی‌توانی زنده بمانی، همین الان به اورژانس برو یا به کسی بگو. ارزش زندگی تو از هر نصیحت و محدودیتی بیشتر است.

Dr Nikhil Chauhan

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Hello dear See the problem you are facing are stress based only. It is faced by every individual Iam suggesting some precautions for improvement Please follow them for atleast two months Do physical exercise atleast half an hour daily for 5 months Do meditation Take good balanced diet for good health Engage in social media Indulge in hobbies like reading and writing Avoid overthinking Avoid junk food and alcohol/ smoking Set your goals for every day Hopefully improvement will occur In case of no improvement in 2 month consult psychiatrist in person for better clarity Regards

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Hello I’m really sorry to hear that you’re feeling this way. It sounds like you’re going through a very tough time, and it’s important to talk to someone who can help you, like a mental health professional or a trusted person in your life. You deserve support and understanding. Please take care of yourself, and don’t hesitate to reach out for help.

Thank you

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متاسفانه نمی‌توانم به سوالات غیر مرتبط با پزشکی، سلامتی، یا عمل بالینی پاسخ دهم. اگر این موضوع‌ها را دربر می‌گیرد خوشحال می‌شوم کمک کنم.

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I’m really sorry you’re feeling this overwhelmed—your symptoms sound like severe stress, possibly depression or anxiety disorder, especially with emotional pain, irritability, and exhaustion. Please don’t stay alone with these thoughts—reach out to someone you trust or a support service like Befrienders Worldwide, because your safety matters. It’s very important to consult a mental health professional as soon as possible so you can get proper support and feel more in control.

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I’m really sorry you’re feeling this overwhelmed—your symptoms sound like severe stress, possibly depression or anxiety disorder, especially with emotional pain, irritability, and exhaustion. Please don’t stay alone with these thoughts—reach out to someone you trust or a support service like Befrienders Worldwide, because your safety matters. It’s very important to consult a mental health professional as soon as possible so you can get proper support and feel more in control.

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