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Question #29715
91 days ago
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What to do if I'm nervous about having sex for the first time after marriage?

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मैं 32 साल का हु मैने आज तक किसी लड़की के साथ सेक्स नहीं किया है, हालांकि हैंडसेक्स काफी बार किया है, अभी मेरा शादी हुआ है तो मुझे घबराहट के कारण है कि क्या तो सेक्स करने के लिए उसके पास जाने से भी खड़ा नहीं हो रहा है

How long have you been feeling this nervousness?:

- A few days

Have you discussed your feelings with your partner?:

- Yes, openly

Do you have any specific fears or concerns about sex?:

- Fear of performance

Have you experienced any physical symptoms related to your anxiety?:

- No physical symptoms

How comfortable do you feel with physical intimacy in general?:

- Uncomfortable

Have you ever sought help for anxiety or sexual health before?:

- No, this is my first time
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Hello ji Aap ghabrao nahin Starting main aisa hi hota hai Kuch precautions likh raha hun Definitely improvement hogii See following medications can be taken in case if preventive therapy is not successful Avoid heavy meals and alcohol Take ashwagandha or triphala once a day for 2 months Do meditation Do physical exercises atleast for half an hour Especially kegel exercises Take shilajeet for 1 month once a day In case of no improvement in 1 month, kindly consult gynaecologist for further clarification Hopefully aap jaldi theek hon Regards

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Hello

Yeh situation bahut common hai, aur jo aap feel kar rahe ho woh bilkul normal hai—especially jab pehli baar sex ho raha ho aur performance ka pressure ho.

Sabse pehle samajh lo ki yeh physical problem nahi hai, yeh anxiety ki wajah se ho raha hai. Jab dimaag me darr ya tension hota hai, toh body naturally erection ko block kar deti hai. Isko performance anxiety bolte hain.

Aapko turant sex perform karne ka pressure lene ki zarurat nahi hai. Shuruaat intimacy se karo—jaise baat karna, hug, kiss, touch—bina penetration ke. Dheere dheere comfort badhega aur body naturally respond karegi.

Apni partner ke saath open rehna bahut important hai, aur aap already woh kar rahe ho—that’s a good sign. Isko ek “test” ya “exam” mat banao, balki ek natural connection ki tarah lo.

Agar erection nahi ho raha ek do baar, usse darne ki zarurat nahi hai. Jitna aap sochoge “hoga ya nahi hoga”, utna hi mushkil hoga. Relax rehna hi main treatment hai.

Agar yeh problem kuch hafton tak continue kare, tab doctor se mil sakte ho—kabhi kabhi mild medication ya counseling help karti hai.

Short me: tension kam karo, slow jao, intimacy pe focus karo—not performance. Sab naturally theek ho jata hai.

Take care

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अगर आप यौन संबंध बनाने को लेकर घबराए हुए हैं, तो यह बिल्कुल सामान्य है। कई लोग पहली बार के अनुभव में तनाव महसूस करते हैं। घबराहट की वजह से उत्तेजना में कमी महसूस हो सकती है, जो स्वास्थ्य के दृष्टिकोण से सामान्य है। सबसे पहले, समझें कि यौन संबंध दोनों के लिए एक सहमति और प्राकृतिक प्रक्रिया होनी चाहिए। इसे लेकर आप दोनों के मतभेद या चिंता हो सकती है; यह महत्वपूर्ण है कि इसे खुलकर बातें करें। आपको लग सकता है कि प्रदर्शन को लेकर अत्यधिक दबाव है, जिससे घबराहट बढ़ जाती है। इससे उबरने का एक तरीका है कि आप ध्यान शांत और आराम से रहें — गहरी सांस लें, मानसिक रूप से खुद को तैयार करें। शारीरिक और मानसिक रूप से खुद को सही स्थिति में लाना भी मदद कर सकता है; नियमित व्यायाम और एक संतुलित आहार आपकी समग्र सेहत को सुधार सकते हैं, जिससे यौन स्वास्थ्य भी प्रभावित होता है। आप किसी ऐसे व्यक्ति से भी बात कर सकते हैं, जैसे कि एक चिकित्सीय विशेषज्ञ, जो यौन स्वास्थ्य के मामलों में विशेषज्ञ हो। अगर आप इसमें सुधार नहीं देखते हैं या यह लंबे समय तक रहता है, तो यह उपयोगी हो सकता है कि आप एक डॉक्टर या सेक्स थेरेपिस्ट से सलाह लें। यह बहुत जरूरी होता है कि आप खुलकर अपनी चिंताओं के बारे में बात करें और मदद लें जहाँ आप सुरक्षित और समझदार महसूस करें।

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