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Question #29715
45 days ago
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What to do if I'm nervous about having sex for the first time after marriage? - #29715

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मैं 32 साल का हु मैने आज तक किसी लड़की के साथ सेक्स नहीं किया है, हालांकि हैंडसेक्स काफी बार किया है, अभी मेरा शादी हुआ है तो मुझे घबराहट के कारण है कि क्या तो सेक्स करने के लिए उसके पास जाने से भी खड़ा नहीं हो रहा है

How long have you been feeling this nervousness?:

- A few days

Have you discussed your feelings with your partner?:

- Yes, openly

Do you have any specific fears or concerns about sex?:

- Fear of performance

Have you experienced any physical symptoms related to your anxiety?:

- No physical symptoms

How comfortable do you feel with physical intimacy in general?:

- Uncomfortable

Have you ever sought help for anxiety or sexual health before?:

- No, this is my first time
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Dr. Bharat Joshi
I’m a periodontist and academician with a strong clinical and teaching background. Over the last 4 years and 8 months, I’ve been actively involved in dental education, guiding students at multiple levels including dental hygienist, BDS, and MDS programs. Currently, I serve as a Reader at MMCDSR in Ambala, Haryana—a role that allows me to merge my academic passion with hands-on experience. Clinically, I’ve been practicing dentistry for the past 12 years. From routine procedures like scaling and root planing to more advanced cases involving grafts, biopsies, and implant surgeries. Honestly, I still find joy in doing a simple RCT when it’s needed. It’s not just about the procedure but making sure the patient feels comfortable and safe. Academically, I have 26 research publications to my credit. I’m on the editorial boards of the Archives of Dental Research and Journal of Dental Research and Oral Health, and I’ve spent a lot of time reviewing manuscripts—from case reports to meta-analyses and even book reviews. I was honored to receive the “Best Editor” award by Innovative Publications, and Athena Publications recognized me as an “excellent reviewer,” which honestly came as a bit of a surprise! In 2025, I had the opportunity to present a guest lecture in Italy on traumatic oral lesions. Sharing my work and learning from peers globally has been incredibly fulfilling. Outside academics and clinics, I’ve also worked in the pharmaceutical sector as a Drug Safety Associate for about 3 years, focusing on pharmacovigilance. That role really sharpened my attention to detail and deepened my understanding of drug interactions and adverse effects. My goal is to keep learning, and give every patient and student my absolute best.
44 days ago
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Hello ji Aap ghabrao nahin Starting main aisa hi hota hai Kuch precautions likh raha hun Definitely improvement hogii See following medications can be taken in case if preventive therapy is not successful Avoid heavy meals and alcohol Take ashwagandha or triphala once a day for 2 months Do meditation Do physical exercises atleast for half an hour Especially kegel exercises Take shilajeet for 1 month once a day In case of no improvement in 1 month, kindly consult gynaecologist for further clarification Hopefully aap jaldi theek hon Regards

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Dr. Arsha K Isac
I am a general dentist with 3+ years of working in real-world setups, and lemme say—every single patient teaches me something diff. It’s not just teeth honestly, it’s people… and how they feel walking into the chair. I try really hard to not make it just a “procedure thing.” I explain stuff in plain words—no confusing dental jargon, just straight talk—coz I feel like when ppl *get* what's going on, they feel safer n that makes all the difference. Worked with all ages—like, little kids who need that gentle nudge about brushing, to older folks who come in with long histories and sometimes just need someone to really sit n listen. It’s weirdly rewarding to see someone walk out lighter, not just 'coz their toothache's gone but coz they felt seen during the whole thing. A lot of ppl come in scared or just unsure, and I honestly take that seriously. I keep the vibe calm. Try to read their mood, don’t rush. I always tell myself—every smile’s got a story, even the broken ones. My thing is: comfort first, then precision. I want the outcome to last, not just look good for a week. Not tryna claim perfection or magic solutions—just consistent, clear, hands-on care where patients feel heard. I think dentistry should *fit* the person, not push them into a box. That's kinda been my philosophy from day one. And yeah, maybe sometimes I overexplain or spend a bit too long checking alignment again but hey, if it means someone eats pain-free or finally smiles wide in pics again? Worth it. Every time.
44 days ago
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Hello

Yeh situation bahut common hai, aur jo aap feel kar rahe ho woh bilkul normal hai—especially jab pehli baar sex ho raha ho aur performance ka pressure ho.

Sabse pehle samajh lo ki yeh physical problem nahi hai, yeh anxiety ki wajah se ho raha hai. Jab dimaag me darr ya tension hota hai, toh body naturally erection ko block kar deti hai. Isko performance anxiety bolte hain.

Aapko turant sex perform karne ka pressure lene ki zarurat nahi hai. Shuruaat intimacy se karo—jaise baat karna, hug, kiss, touch—bina penetration ke. Dheere dheere comfort badhega aur body naturally respond karegi.

Apni partner ke saath open rehna bahut important hai, aur aap already woh kar rahe ho—that’s a good sign. Isko ek “test” ya “exam” mat banao, balki ek natural connection ki tarah lo.

Agar erection nahi ho raha ek do baar, usse darne ki zarurat nahi hai. Jitna aap sochoge “hoga ya nahi hoga”, utna hi mushkil hoga. Relax rehna hi main treatment hai.

Agar yeh problem kuch hafton tak continue kare, tab doctor se mil sakte ho—kabhi kabhi mild medication ya counseling help karti hai.

Short me: tension kam karo, slow jao, intimacy pe focus karo—not performance. Sab naturally theek ho jata hai.

Take care

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अगर आप यौन संबंध बनाने को लेकर घबराए हुए हैं, तो यह बिल्कुल सामान्य है। कई लोग पहली बार के अनुभव में तनाव महसूस करते हैं। घबराहट की वजह से उत्तेजना में कमी महसूस हो सकती है, जो स्वास्थ्य के दृष्टिकोण से सामान्य है। सबसे पहले, समझें कि यौन संबंध दोनों के लिए एक सहमति और प्राकृतिक प्रक्रिया होनी चाहिए। इसे लेकर आप दोनों के मतभेद या चिंता हो सकती है; यह महत्वपूर्ण है कि इसे खुलकर बातें करें। आपको लग सकता है कि प्रदर्शन को लेकर अत्यधिक दबाव है, जिससे घबराहट बढ़ जाती है। इससे उबरने का एक तरीका है कि आप ध्यान शांत और आराम से रहें — गहरी सांस लें, मानसिक रूप से खुद को तैयार करें। शारीरिक और मानसिक रूप से खुद को सही स्थिति में लाना भी मदद कर सकता है; नियमित व्यायाम और एक संतुलित आहार आपकी समग्र सेहत को सुधार सकते हैं, जिससे यौन स्वास्थ्य भी प्रभावित होता है। आप किसी ऐसे व्यक्ति से भी बात कर सकते हैं, जैसे कि एक चिकित्सीय विशेषज्ञ, जो यौन स्वास्थ्य के मामलों में विशेषज्ञ हो। अगर आप इसमें सुधार नहीं देखते हैं या यह लंबे समय तक रहता है, तो यह उपयोगी हो सकता है कि आप एक डॉक्टर या सेक्स थेरेपिस्ट से सलाह लें। यह बहुत जरूरी होता है कि आप खुलकर अपनी चिंताओं के बारे में बात करें और मदद लें जहाँ आप सुरक्षित और समझदार महसूस करें।

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