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Question #27259
8 hours ago
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Struggling with High Sexual Desire and Self-Control - #27259

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Hello, I am 21 years old, and for the past 3 years I have been experiencing a high level of sexual desire. At first it was occasional, but over time it has become more frequent. The desire is not only triggered by explicit content; sometimes it comes suddenly without any clear reason, during the day or before sleep. When it happens, I feel a strong urge that makes it difficult to focus on studying or completing my tasks until I masturbate. Before Ramadan, I was masturbating almost daily. During Ramadan, I try to abstain, but I often return to it after fasting. I have tried to stop multiple times, and the longest period I managed was 2–3 days. I feel regret after masturbating, and I am worried about continuing this behavior and how it might affect my future. It sometimes affects my concentration and sleep if I try to resist the urge. I occasionally use pornography, but the sexual desire exists even without it. I maintain my religious practices and pray regularly, and I ask God to make things easier for me and help me marry in the future to avoid sinful behavior, but currently I struggle with self-control. I do not have any chronic illnesses and I do not take medications. I sleep about 6–8 hours per night. I would like to know whether this is normal for my age, or if it requires psychological evaluation or hormonal testing. Are there behavioral or medical treatments that could help me manage my sexual urges better?

How would you rate the intensity of your sexual urges?:

- Overwhelming, hard to control

What strategies have you tried to manage your sexual urges?:

- None, I haven't tried anything

Have you experienced any changes in your mood or mental health related to these urges?:

- Moderate anxiety or stress
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Dr. Bharat Joshi
I’m a periodontist and academician with a strong clinical and teaching background. Over the last 4 years and 8 months, I’ve been actively involved in dental education, guiding students at multiple levels including dental hygienist, BDS, and MDS programs. Currently, I serve as a Reader at MMCDSR in Ambala, Haryana—a role that allows me to merge my academic passion with hands-on experience. Clinically, I’ve been practicing dentistry for the past 12 years. From routine procedures like scaling and root planing to more advanced cases involving grafts, biopsies, and implant surgeries. Honestly, I still find joy in doing a simple RCT when it’s needed. It’s not just about the procedure but making sure the patient feels comfortable and safe. Academically, I have 26 research publications to my credit. I’m on the editorial boards of the Archives of Dental Research and Journal of Dental Research and Oral Health, and I’ve spent a lot of time reviewing manuscripts—from case reports to meta-analyses and even book reviews. I was honored to receive the “Best Editor” award by Innovative Publications, and Athena Publications recognized me as an “excellent reviewer,” which honestly came as a bit of a surprise! In 2025, I had the opportunity to present a guest lecture in Italy on traumatic oral lesions. Sharing my work and learning from peers globally has been incredibly fulfilling. Outside academics and clinics, I’ve also worked in the pharmaceutical sector as a Drug Safety Associate for about 3 years, focusing on pharmacovigilance. That role really sharpened my attention to detail and deepened my understanding of drug interactions and adverse effects. My goal is to keep learning, and give every patient and student my absolute best.
1 hour ago
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Hello dear No it is not abnormal It is due physiological variation which occurs during young age. It just require focus and self control. I am suggesting some precautions. Please follow them for atleast two months Do physical exercise atleast half an hour daily for 5 months Do meditation Take good balanced diet for good health Engage in social media Indulge in hobbies like reading and writing Avoid overthinking Avoid junk food and alcohol/ smoking Set your goals for every day Avoid masturbation or watching porn regularly Give break slowly and slowly for atleast 2 days regarding masturbation Hopefully improvement will occur In case of no improvement in 2 month consult psychiatrist in person for better clarity Regards

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Dr. Arsha K Isac
I am a general dentist with 3+ years of working in real-world setups, and lemme say—every single patient teaches me something diff. It’s not just teeth honestly, it’s people… and how they feel walking into the chair. I try really hard to not make it just a “procedure thing.” I explain stuff in plain words—no confusing dental jargon, just straight talk—coz I feel like when ppl *get* what's going on, they feel safer n that makes all the difference. Worked with all ages—like, little kids who need that gentle nudge about brushing, to older folks who come in with long histories and sometimes just need someone to really sit n listen. It’s weirdly rewarding to see someone walk out lighter, not just 'coz their toothache's gone but coz they felt seen during the whole thing. A lot of ppl come in scared or just unsure, and I honestly take that seriously. I keep the vibe calm. Try to read their mood, don’t rush. I always tell myself—every smile’s got a story, even the broken ones. My thing is: comfort first, then precision. I want the outcome to last, not just look good for a week. Not tryna claim perfection or magic solutions—just consistent, clear, hands-on care where patients feel heard. I think dentistry should *fit* the person, not push them into a box. That's kinda been my philosophy from day one. And yeah, maybe sometimes I overexplain or spend a bit too long checking alignment again but hey, if it means someone eats pain-free or finally smiles wide in pics again? Worth it. Every time.
1 hour ago
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Hello

At 21 years old, having a strong sexual desire is very common and usually normal.

High libido at this age is mainly due to higher levels of the hormone testosterone.

It does not usually require hormonal testing or medical treatment unless there are other symptoms.

What you describe becomes a concern only if it starts interfering with daily life, like studies, sleep, or causing distress.

Helpful strategies: • Avoid pornography and sexual triggers as much as possible. • Stay physically active (exercise, sports) to reduce sexual tension. • Keep yourself busy with study, work, or hobbies. • Improve sleep routine and avoid staying alone with your phone at night. • Practice mindfulness or prayer/meditation when urges appear. • Limit idle time, which often increases urges.

Important: Masturbation itself is not harmful medically, but frequent use with pornography can increase urges and make control harder.

When to seek professional help: If urges feel compulsive, uncontrollable, or cause significant anxiety, speaking with a psychologist or counselor can help with behavioral control techniques.

✅ Summary: Your situation is very common at your age, and usually managed with lifestyle changes and self-control strategies, not medication.

I trust this helps Thank you Take care

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